Ok you’ve turned up in your Sunday best, you’re smelling as sweet as roses, and you’ve been complimenting her all night – possibly all month! Now you need to know whether she’s interested.

There isn’t a magic bullet or a flashing neon sign to give you the go-ahead.

Your best friends are probably as useful as a wet fish when it comes to giving you the yes or no, and your mum probably thinks that she isn’t good enough for you anyway.

So what is a man to do!? Read and learn.

Women are complicated beings, so you should give up trying to understand them completely. She has a variety of ways to express interest, some subtle others not so. The key is to look out for the ‘cluster of signs’ i.e. a group of signs that indicate a pattern of interest in you.

Here are my top 5 signs of female attraction:

1. Is she looking at you?
I mean really looking at you. When a woman is attracted to a man she will take the time to scan your face. She’ll be checking out your lips, teeth, eyes, forehead, chest and hands (assuming you’re sitting down together) and your posture, chest size, waste and hands when you’re standing. Evolution has programmed women to look out for optimum masculine characteristics such as a strong body with a wide and firm torso, narrowed waste, and strong legs, strong hands and a manly jaw.

2. Is she touching herself?
According to the kama sutra lovers touch themselves in ways that indicate an unconscious or conscious desire to be touched. If she is stroking her arms, legs or hands she may want a little playful interaction. But make sure you are gentle and subtle. Always be a gentleman.

3. Freshen her hair and make up
If she regularly tops up her make up, it would seem that she want to look her best for you. (Unless of course she has a habit of doing this anyway!) A bit of analysis may be required.

4. The Eyes Have it
Does she look into your eyes for more than 3 seconds, or lower them while you are talking. This avoidance of eye contact is often away to deal with shyness or a fluttering heart.

5. Does she highlight her femininity Women consciously flash their feminine traits when near men. Does she expose her fragile wrists, tilt her neck to one side to expose her neck, cross her legs to highlight long lean definition, place her hands on her hips to draw attention to them. Keep you eyes peeled.

6. Preening When we like someone, we instinctively want to look good for them. Does she fiddle with her clothes, straighten her attire?

7. Space invaders
Is she invading your personal space? Yes? But I’m sure you don’t mind do you?! If you is placing her body, or parts of her body such as her hands or legs closer to yours, this usually indicated that she is trusting you more and that she wants a bit more close contact. If you find her hand drawing near yours take up the cue, and lighting touch it in mid conversation. If she responds well, play with her fingers and stroke her hand. Always check for feedback as you proceed further, or you risk an ‘emotional’ slap.

So there you have it gentlemen. Look out for a cluster of signs, observe, get feedback and watch for those signs!

Did you know that the direct translation of karma sutra is sexual science? It is a love manual written by an Indian sage who lived sometime in the 2nd century A.D.  These writings were based on an even older version of a love making manual called the “Rule of Love” written some time in the 7th century B.C.

 The Karma Sutra offers many tips that go beyond positions and techniques. It explores the intimacy of touch and massage and the importance of foreplay and communication between couples. It understands that there must be a connection between two people to get the most from a sexual experience. Erotic massage can help create that connection.

According to the Karma Sutra, erotic massage is an essential part of lovemaking. Moving too quickly into the sexual act without proper attention to foreplay and exploration will diminish the experience. Erotic massage is the perfect way to savor the moment with your loved one, to experience the fullest of pleasure and to explore and savor every inch of each other’s bodies.

Resist the temptation to plunge head long into intercourse and orgasm. Allow yourselves the opportunity to float along the edges of desire by engaging in prolonged periods of erotic massage.

The Karma Sutra instructs us to begin before we begin by touching throughout the day with light, unexpected touches. These are a subtle display of affection that will let your partner know you are thinking of them and are looking forward to time spent alone together at a later time. The power of touch can not be stressed enough, especially gentle touches from a loved one.  Soft touches are whispers of love that can be very erotic.

These touches are the foreplay of erotic massage as described in the Karma Sutra. The Karma Sutra instructs us to touch our partner’s body with soft, gentle strokes always remembering that our partner’s flesh, as well as our own, is delicate and sensitive and is to be treated with reverence and respect. Using sensual oils, warmed sufficiently in the hands of the giver will provide a thin veil of protection to our lover’s skin as we explore their bodies. With each movement of our finger tips we are conveying our good intentions for their pleasure. We are telling them through touch that we want only good sensations for them, inviting them to relax, trust and enjoy.