Erotica is usually identified in the same school as pornography, though it’s unfair.  Sure, they both have naked people.  But erotica is hinting at, teasing, tantalizing- and porn couldn’t be more blatant or graphic, though it’s not necessarily bad.  The issue comes down to a simple question:  do you think the human body and/or sex is something dirty, nasty and should be hidden?  If so, your mind’s already made up about any nude forms, no matter the quality or the beauty, no matter erotica or porn.  Somewhat surprisingly, women have historically been the main supporters of erotica, and are now the growing in numbers in the female porn industry.

A quick run-down of erotica through the ages:

•    40,000 years ago, in a Spanish cave, the first naked images were painted.  Or at least the first that we’ve found that date that far back.  They show both men and women, and men with women.  Some believe that the men-with-women designates the first pornographic image.

•    Erotic art was extremely commonplace in both Grecian and Roman homes.  The walls were covered with art and tapestries, the topic of physicality was openly discussed and even the ewers and dinnerware were covered in nude images.  Many were based on their mythologies, but doesn’t it make you wonder how the human race survived if these images were so detrimental to children?  They saw them every day, and Romans still managed to carve their place in the world.

•    The Kama Sutra might be one of the most misunderstood tomes of all intimacy times. Unlike most people seem to think, it’s not a sexual-deviant’s instruction book.  It’s a spiritual and physical guide to general fulfillment.  Body and soul.  While some of the sketches might seem too-detailed and others far-fetched (can anyone actually do that-?) it is not pornography.  Its purpose is not self-satisfaction, but mutual gratification.  And appreciation of what couples can do to improve their connection.

•    The Buncton/Winston Sheela Na Gig, which was 1,000 years old, upset someone who destroyed it for its eroticism.  You can find ‘before’ pictures on the net, which are hardly racy.  Naked, yes.  Destructive to the family fabric?  Hardly.

•    Lastly to be mentioned, the daring daguerreotype.  As in:  how dare they!  What is often omitted from mention is the fact that the models from the 1850s onward were keen on being shown.  It was a new medium.  Looking at the postcards, they’re tasteful and celebratory of the female figure.  At least half of the postcards sent were from women.  You could even theorize that these postcards were the first erotica/porn (depending on your interpretation) to become trans-global by both genders.

There’s a new history being created at the moment.  One-third of all porn site visitors are women, thanks to the stripping of taboos the internet has created.  The hottest market is being created by women directors, actresses and producers that are doing ground-breaking work to literally please women.  Not to be confused with such delicate erotic artists such as Robert Mapplethorpe, who finally gave praise to the male body.  It could mean that through erotica and porn women are rediscovering their sensual identities, which seems to have been stifled for much too long.  Women shouldn’t have to feel ashamed to embrace their sexuality visually, graphically or individually.  They should be able to embrace what they like, mimicking their foremothers through the ages.

The sexual fire breath is one of the best exercises, especially with a partner (but you can also do it alone), for rapidly building a hot sexual charge and moving it up through your body, helping to open all of your chakra centers. In the sexual fire breath you use a combination of sound, pelvic rocking, PC (pubococcygeous) muscle squeezes, deep abdominal breathing, visualization and hand movements.

Use the sexual fire breath on your own to open yourself to your full exquisite sexual potential. Do it as a charger-upper before making love. Do it during lovemaking as you are being manually or orally stimulated. Do it during intercourse, but be very observant and ready to stop in a flash in the early learning stages or the man may go beyond his point of no return to ejaculate before you are both ready to end the lovemaking. If “energy” is very subtle for you and you don’t usually feel it, try this exercise. Most report really feeling something the very first time they do the sexual fire breath.

Sexual Fire Breath

• Lie on your back. Feet flat on the floor/bed. Knees bent. Legs comfortably apart. Hands at your sides, palms up. Eyes closed.
• Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into your belly.
• Focus your attention on your genitals and visualize drawing breath in and out through them.
• When you have a comfortable breathing rhythm established, begin to rock your pelvis, tilting it up toward the sky.

Use your feet to slightly push off the floor so that you are not using your abdominal muscles to rock and they can remain loose and open.

• Inhale as you rock back. Exhale as you rock forward. (Note: some bodies want to do it the opposite way – listen to yours and go with what feels right).
• Make sound as you exhale – AAAAAHHHH. (This is the most difficult part for many people but it helps enormously, sound carries the energy).
• When you are in a comfortable rhythm, add PC Pumping. Tighten your PC muscles as you rock back. Relax them as you rock forward. (Note: your body might want to do it the opposite way, let it.)
• Begin to visualize your sexual energy as a great ball of golden fire in your genitals. As you rock, breathe and pump draw the golden fireball up through your chakra centers, one chakra at a time.
• Send the energy out through your crown chakra into the universe. Do not leave it to build up in your head. If you are making love with a partner, you can also pass the energy to him through your eyes, your kiss, your breath.
• Pass your hands in flowing motions up your body to help with the energy movement.
• Breathe more rapidly to move the energy higher within your body, allowing yourself to open into its flow.
• When you reach a high edge of energetic arousal you can maintain this level by deepening and slowing your breathing and keeping your body relaxed.
• Rest in stillness for a few moments when you are finished practicing so that the energy can continue to flow through you. Bring it back down and store it in your belly chakra for later use.
• If you have left a store of energy in your head and feel some congestion there do Grounding and apply firm pressure with your fingertips to your crown chakra.

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

The basis of Judeo-Christian sexual prohibitions, as well as the sexual prohibitions of religions such as Islam, spring from ancient Jewish tribal law. In those days wives were considered “property” and laws were specifically codified to protect three things: livestock, wives and dwellings.

The priests and the prophets of the Judeo Christian tradition realized that by controlling the sex life of their subjects they would attain a significant degree of control over the people’s personal and spiritual lives. The threat of an eternal hell of fire-and-brimstone not only bolstered this control but it allowed the church to commercialize the forgiveness of sexual sin — a predisposition that was solidly programmed into our “survival of the species” In Islamic countries you need to go back to the pre-Islamic era of countless warring tribes and the efforts of The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) to bring all of them under the banner of the God’s divine teachings. Life is ordered and regulated by God and his messenger, the Prophet (PBUH) has transmitted the word to the people.

Coming to the subject of sexuality, in Islam it is confined to the bonds of marriage Sex is also viewed as recreation but again only within marriage. Islamic beliefs stress that there is divine reward for sex within marriage and that both partners are entitled to sexual gratification. Similar injunctions about wayward sex can be found in Hindu scriptures The book, Bhagvat Gita which means “ Song of the Lord” has this verse: “ O, Son of Kunti, the pleasures that are born out of sensory contacts are sources of pain. They certainly are transient, having a beginning and an end. The intelligent man is wise enough not to indulge in them” (Chap., v: 22) Even the Kama Sutra which is often tarred with the brush of soft porn raises sex to a spiritual level. In Hinduism, Enlightenment is the ultimate goal of life and yet it encourages people to enjoy everything and thus fulfill all material desires. Enlightenment is a long process and can be achieved only when all material desires are quenched. Thus you find two methods, the Way of the Renunciate and the Way of the Householder. Then there is one more method, the Way of Tantra which in its bastardized form is popular with westerners looking for a Quick Fix to all their problems.

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This shower sex game is a fun way to engage in sexual playful banter. It’s a nice deviation to other sex games that actually require couples to be slow and quiet.

This sex game though can be a bit deceiving. It starts of more on the fun side but the consequences are extremely sensual, making it the perfect sex game for beginners. You know, those who are not yet fully comfortable getting naked in the bathroom with their lover there as well.

How to Play the Shower Cowboy and Cowgirl Sex Game

First off, you guys need water pistols! Get into the bathroom with your undergarments still on. Fill the water pistol with water and try as much as you can to drench your lover’s underwear with water. (It would be fantastic if she’s wearing translucent undies!) This would be a great voyeur-type of experience for you!

What about her then? She can of course do the same. In fact, you guys can try and `shoot’ at each other at the same time and after a given period (bring a timer inside the bathroom), check which one’s undergarments are more drenched in water. The one that’s more soaked loses and as such must remove all his/her clothes off!

The one who’s now completely naked should stand against the wall while the other one is on the opposite end of the bathroom. The one still with clothes should then try to `aim’ at his/her lover’s body. This time though, instead of using water, use diluted chocolate.

Use anything that has a bit of color and is EDIBLE. After, say 30 seconds or so of `shooting’, the shooter gets to lick off each and every part of the other’s body that was hit by the chocolate. Of course, the shooter should hit as many erogenous zones on his/her partner’s body possible.

Shower Cowboy and Cowgirl Sexual Playing Cards

A variation of this sex game is to make use of adult playing cards. Draw a card and see which body part you should aim for. If you hit the spot, then draw a card from the Kama Sutra set of playing cards (or any similar deck) and perform the deed on the card. On the other hand, if you miss the spot, your partner gets to draw from her `penalties box’ which can either be sexually related or a chore you have to do!

Another variation to this sex game is to make full use of that timer you brought along. Pick a card to see which body part you should aim for. If you hit the spot, then draw a card from the Kama Sutra set of playing cards (or any similar deck) and perform the deed on the card but this time, only for a specific period of time. You can have another deck of cards where you can pick out time or simply apply an ascending time period. So for example, you can start off the time period at 5 seconds, and then for the second deed, go for 10 seconds, and so on.

Shower Cowboy and Cowgirl Bull’s Eye Board

This time, instead of `shooting’ at each other, aim at a sexual dart board of some kind. Shoot at the board with your water pistol and see which sexual activity it lands on. You then of course need to do the deed so aim for sexual activities that you’d like to perform instead of receive. If you don’t hit anything on the board, then you completely miss your sexual treat and it’s your partner’s turn to aim at the board!

As mentioned above, a sex game involving shower pistols seems to be more fun than `serious’ and as such is a great way to encourage your partner to start engaging in sex games. Of course, as you can tell from the likely consequences that that’s quite deceiving. But don’t worry, once your lover is already into the game, it’s quite hard to back off from it because of the sexual pleasures it can bring.

Just remember that there’s really no `competition’ here. Don’t get annoyed if you miss treats or if your partner never seems to hit a target! Just think of all the practice you need to do to get this right.

Enjoy yourselves!

I love chocolates–and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay, sex… they’re all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolates can have wonderful effects on our bodies. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure.

A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover–and also very fortunately–chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

Short Choco History

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies.

In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic’.

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate as a Sex Tool

Now if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor.

Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course… her you-know-where!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies! Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise–that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to ‘pleasure’ you. I guarantee she’ll be sucking away with gusto!

Here’s another great idea. Edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!

I love chocolates–and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay, sex… they’re all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolates can have wonderful effects on our bodies. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure.

A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover–and also very fortunately–chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

Short Choco History

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies.

In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic’.

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate as a Sex Tool

Now if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor.

Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course… her you-know-where!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies! Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise–that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to ‘pleasure’ you. I guarantee she’ll be sucking away with gusto!

Here’s another great idea. Edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!

Hi honey! I have a question…

Do you know what women think when a penis is below average???

Well, let me resolve this intriguing dilemma!

In my last article I briefly mentioned the average penis size to be about 5 1/2 and 6 inches. This number was based on research conducted by the Kinsey Institute in Indiana. So what happens when men fall below the average quota? Do women laugh and tell all their friends about it or do they secretly hope you can make up for it?

Below I’ll answer all your questions plus give you secret tips on how to make her think you are absolutely amazing in bed, regardless of size!

What goes through her mind when she sees your penis?

I’m going to be honest here, when women first discover their partner’s penis is below average they are disappointed. But that’s not the final conclusion. A woman will never decide to stop sex before it begins simply by the site of your penis. After the initial disappointment, she will give you an opportunity to make up for your small size.

At this point she’s thinking, “We’ll maybe he’s on the small size but let’s see what he can do.” She hopes that although her partner is small, he knows how to use his size as an advantage. In fact, most women know that men with small penises usually master several techniques to satisfy women.

Haven’t you heard about the stereo type of men with smaller penises? Read on.

Why men with small penises are better lovers

Most men aren’t aware of this, but men with smaller penis size must work twice as hard to remove a woman’s initial disappointment. This factor makes them a far better lover then men with average or bigger penis size. The reason I say this is because men with larger penises usually rely only on their member to satisfy women. They rarely explore other regions such as oral sex and foreplay which is an even bigger disappointed to women.

On the other hand, men with smaller penises usually master several techniques to please women. They are known to give great oral sex, penetrate in ways bigger size men can not, and be extremely passionate.

A woman would rather have a partner with a smaller penis size who knows how to please her in multiple ways then a man with a big penis who does not. This is why it is said that men with small penises are better lovers.

Tips to be a great lover, regardless of size!

Many men assume that sexual satisfaction for women depends on penis size. They’re wrong. Women need various stimulants to be satisfied sexually. They must be satisfied mentally as well as physically. In fact, some studies have found that as many as 46% of women suffer from sexual unsatisfaction. This stems from a boring sex life and inability to orgasm.

The reason so many women don’t experience an orgasm is because they, and their partners, aren’t exploring other areas of sexual satisfaction.

The truth is penis size has little to do with sexual satisfaction since not all women orgasm from intercourse. Many women need stimulation from oral sex, sexual massage, or sex toys to orgasm.

Below are hot ways to make your women experience the greatest sex of her life, regardless of size; she will be coming back for more!

Master foreplay

An essential to giving women an amazing sexual experience is foreplay. While most men have foreplay techniques not all have what it takes to stand apart from the rest. This means taking foreplay to another level. Are you ready to get creative?

Body Massage Candle

Candles are necessary to setting the mood. It’s a definite must to start the night off in the right foot. You can bring this element a step further by lighting body massage candles instead of regular ones. Body massage candles are meant to be more than decoration; they are made to melt into sensual massage oil. Simply light the candle and drizzle the warm oil on your lover’s body; she will be highly aroused as the warm oil touches her skin. Since the wax turns into oil, it’s the perfect opportunity for an erotic body massage.

Most women have never heard of the body massage candle, when you introduce this nice surprise, she’ll be wondering what else you have in store!

Sensitizing Cream

After you set the mood for sex; it’s time to enhance her sexual experience; opt for sensitizing cream. Sensitizing cream is a lubricant wich promotes genital blood flow. There are sensitizing creams available for both men and women. The ones designed for women promote clitoral blood flow which is essential for orgasms. Clitoral blood flow helps increase a woman’s sex drive, sensitivity, and climax.

Once the sensitizing cream is applied to her vaginal lips and clitoris, your every touch will be arousing. The increased clitoral blood flow makes it possible for women who have difficulty achieving an orgasm during sex experience orgasms easier and stronger.

Sensitizing creams for men work wonders as well. Since they also promote genital blood flow; they work to increase the size and hardness of erections. Your erection will be the biggest and hardest you’ve ever had. They also increase stamina, so that you stop when you want to. What more can you ask for?

Sex Furtniture

It’s time to take sex off of the bed onto a more exciting location with sex furniture. Flat surfaces, such as the bed are boring compared to the angles in sex furniture. Sex furniture is designed in multiple shapes to offer different angles for maximum penetration, it is the sure fire way to boost your sexual experience.

Couples can find perfect angles with the various sex furniture products out there; my favorite are from Loving Angles. Their sex furniture is so discreet it can be added to your home decor without anyone knowing. This allows couples to take advantage of sexual moments when they arise.

Another popular model is known as the Liberator. Several of my friends have told me that it’s worth every penny of its price.

Remember, when buying sex furniture choose one that can be decorated into your own home since research shows products which are hidden rarely get used.

After all great sex is all about getting into the right position. A small change in angle can be the difference between “ok” sex and outrageous sex!

Kama Sutra

Speaking of angles, the Kama Sutra is an amazing book which offers great ideas for sex positions. The Kama Sutra is often overlooked and most men don’t take the time to learn about new sex positions. This is a shame because men are not mastering a valuable tool in sex; that is finding the perfect angle.

Different sex positions offer men unique angles for ultimate penetration. This works to benefit both men and women as certain positions offer g-spot stimulation; a spot often missed with standard sex positions. G-spot orgasms are very intense for women and often lead to female ejaculation. This can be very exciting for both men and women.

Men with smaller penis should refer to the Kama Sutra to get maximum penetration. With the right position a smaller penis size allows men to penetrate and hit spots deeper in the vagina that will normally hurt a woman. This means, men with smaller penis size are able to please women in ways that men with larger penises can not. Isn’t that a boost to the ego!

Finally, men who are below average in penis size should not assume that they aren’t able to satisfy women. Don’t get hung up on the question of quarter-inches! Be confident and adventurous. With the right attitude such as being creative in foreplay and in sex, women will see your size (regardless of what it is) as an advantage.

Show women that indeed you master several skills in pleasing her. Learn about new sex positions, sex creams, and sex furniture to show women you put your time and effort to giving her the best sex ever. With all these factors in use, she’ll think you’re the ultimate lover and will brag to her friends on the great things you can do!

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With Love,

~ Gabrielle Moore

Hi honey! I have a question…

Do you know what women think when a penis is below average???

Well, let me resolve this intriguing dilemma!

In my last article I briefly mentioned the average penis size to be about 5 1/2 and 6 inches. This number was based on research conducted by the Kinsey Institute in Indiana. So what happens when men fall below the average quota? Do women laugh and tell all their friends about it or do they secretly hope you can make up for it?

Below I’ll answer all your questions plus give you secret tips on how to make her think you are absolutely amazing in bed, regardless of size!

What goes through her mind when she sees your penis?

I’m going to be honest here, when women first discover their partner’s penis is below average they are disappointed. But that’s not the final conclusion. A woman will never decide to stop sex before it begins simply by the site of your penis. After the initial disappointment, she will give you an opportunity to make up for your small size.

At this point she’s thinking, “We’ll maybe he’s on the small size but let’s see what he can do.” She hopes that although her partner is small, he knows how to use his size as an advantage. In fact, most women know that men with small penises usually master several techniques to satisfy women.

Haven’t you heard about the stereo type of men with smaller penises? Read on.

Why men with small penises are better lovers

Most men aren’t aware of this, but men with smaller penis size must work twice as hard to remove a woman’s initial disappointment. This factor makes them a far better lover then men with average or bigger penis size. The reason I say this is because men with larger penises usually rely only on their member to satisfy women. They rarely explore other regions such as oral sex and foreplay which is an even bigger disappointed to women.

On the other hand, men with smaller penises usually master several techniques to please women. They are known to give great oral sex, penetrate in ways bigger size men can not, and be extremely passionate.

A woman would rather have a partner with a smaller penis size who knows how to please her in multiple ways then a man with a big penis who does not. This is why it is said that men with small penises are better lovers.

Tips to be a great lover, regardless of size!

Many men assume that sexual satisfaction for women depends on penis size. They’re wrong. Women need various stimulants to be satisfied sexually. They must be satisfied mentally as well as physically. In fact, some studies have found that as many as 46% of women suffer from sexual unsatisfaction. This stems from a boring sex life and inability to orgasm.

The reason so many women don’t experience an orgasm is because they, and their partners, aren’t exploring other areas of sexual satisfaction.

The truth is penis size has little to do with sexual satisfaction since not all women orgasm from intercourse. Many women need stimulation from oral sex, sexual massage, or sex toys to orgasm.

Below are hot ways to make your women experience the greatest sex of her life, regardless of size; she will be coming back for more!

Master foreplay

An essential to giving women an amazing sexual experience is foreplay. While most men have foreplay techniques not all have what it takes to stand apart from the rest. This means taking foreplay to another level. Are you ready to get creative?

Body Massage Candle

Candles are necessary to setting the mood. It’s a definite must to start the night off in the right foot. You can bring this element a step further by lighting body massage candles instead of regular ones. Body massage candles are meant to be more than decoration; they are made to melt into sensual massage oil. Simply light the candle and drizzle the warm oil on your lover’s body; she will be highly aroused as the warm oil touches her skin. Since the wax turns into oil, it’s the perfect opportunity for an erotic body massage.

Most women have never heard of the body massage candle, when you introduce this nice surprise, she’ll be wondering what else you have in store!

Sensitizing Cream

After you set the mood for sex; it’s time to enhance her sexual experience; opt for sensitizing cream. Sensitizing cream is a lubricant wich promotes genital blood flow. There are sensitizing creams available for both men and women. The ones designed for women promote clitoral blood flow which is essential for orgasms. Clitoral blood flow helps increase a woman’s sex drive, sensitivity, and climax.

Once the sensitizing cream is applied to her vaginal lips and clitoris, your every touch will be arousing. The increased clitoral blood flow makes it possible for women who have difficulty achieving an orgasm during sex experience orgasms easier and stronger.

Sensitizing creams for men work wonders as well. Since they also promote genital blood flow; they work to increase the size and hardness of erections. Your erection will be the biggest and hardest you’ve ever had. They also increase stamina, so that you stop when you want to. What more can you ask for?

Sex Furtniture

It’s time to take sex off of the bed onto a more exciting location with sex furniture. Flat surfaces, such as the bed are boring compared to the angles in sex furniture. Sex furniture is designed in multiple shapes to offer different angles for maximum penetration, it is the sure fire way to boost your sexual experience.

Couples can find perfect angles with the various sex furniture products out there; my favorite are from Loving Angles. Their sex furniture is so discreet it can be added to your home decor without anyone knowing. This allows couples to take advantage of sexual moments when they arise.

Another popular model is known as the Liberator. Several of my friends have told me that it’s worth every penny of its price.

Remember, when buying sex furniture choose one that can be decorated into your own home since research shows products which are hidden rarely get used.

After all great sex is all about getting into the right position. A small change in angle can be the difference between “ok” sex and outrageous sex!

Kama Sutra

Speaking of angles, the Kama Sutra is an amazing book which offers great ideas for sex positions. The Kama Sutra is often overlooked and most men don’t take the time to learn about new sex positions. This is a shame because men are not mastering a valuable tool in sex; that is finding the perfect angle.

Different sex positions offer men unique angles for ultimate penetration. This works to benefit both men and women as certain positions offer g-spot stimulation; a spot often missed with standard sex positions. G-spot orgasms are very intense for women and often lead to female ejaculation. This can be very exciting for both men and women.

Men with smaller penis should refer to the Kama Sutra to get maximum penetration. With the right position a smaller penis size allows men to penetrate and hit spots deeper in the vagina that will normally hurt a woman. This means, men with smaller penis size are able to please women in ways that men with larger penises can not. Isn’t that a boost to the ego!

Finally, men who are below average in penis size should not assume that they aren’t able to satisfy women. Don’t get hung up on the question of quarter-inches! Be confident and adventurous. With the right attitude such as being creative in foreplay and in sex, women will see your size (regardless of what it is) as an advantage.

Show women that indeed you master several skills in pleasing her. Learn about new sex positions, sex creams, and sex furniture to show women you put your time and effort to giving her the best sex ever. With all these factors in use, she’ll think you’re the ultimate lover and will brag to her friends on the great things you can do!

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~ Gabrielle Moore

Many men would love it if their female partner was interested in watching adult videos with them, but they are afraid to ask, because they are scared of how she might respond. The truth is that many women enjoy adult videos just as much as men, or at least open to the idea of trying them out- if they have not already. The problem that most men have is that they make their partners feel like watching them is about watching other women. If make the point clear that it is not about cheating-with-a-video, then your partner will be much more receptive to the idea.

The first step is letting her know that you are interested in watching a video with her, and that you are not interested in watching the videos for the purpose of seeing other women. Make it clear that you are interested in getting new ideas of positions to use with her. One of the best ways to introduce this idea is by purchasing an erotica book or video, on the softer side, e.g. Kama Sutra to watch together. If this goes over well, and you have a mutual inclination towards taking it to the next level, then move on to the next step.

The second step is to watch a safe, premium cable TV video, like you see late at night on Cinemax or HBO. These are very couple-oriented, and are not graphic at all. Most people would not find these late-night shows offensive, so they are pretty safe if the erotica video/book went over well. They can be stumbled-upon when channel surfing, so you can very easily bring them into discussion by ‘accidentally’ turning them on when you watch television together. If she likes it, and you have successfully made the transition to these video, and your experiences together are intensifying as a result, then it is time to go all the way.

The third and final step is to pick out an adult video at a store, or online. Find videos that are geared towards couples, i.e. not degrading to women. Videos are becoming more couple-oriented, now that video makers are discovering how many women enjoy them as well, but there are still a lot of terribly offensive ones out there, so be careful. Also, you will have a terrible experience watching a video with her if she offended, and she will probably not be interested in watching videos with you again in the future. To play it safe, you should probably let her pick the video the first time, and you should go along with whatever she picks. Wait until the second time you watch a video together to voice your opinion.

If you have successfully made the transition to watching videos together, congratulations! A few things to keep in mind are; never suggest any degrading videos (they are not enjoyable anyways), focus on her, do not try to watch them all the time, do not just watch the videos with her- get interactive by trying out some of the things in the videos while you watch them.

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For many people who are looking to take their sex life to a higher level by combining elements of spirituality, the first place they turn is to the ancient Kama Sutra.

The Kama Sutra was written in its original form in the 8th century B.C. and it was used as a guide for not just better and more satisfying sex, but also as a way to bond with your partner beyond just sex.

It is thought that if enough care is taken and both partners are equally interested in each others pleasure as much as their own, that a level of transcendence can be obtained in which a blissful spiritual state is reached through mutual sexual satisfaction.

Let us take a look at a few recommendations by Kama Sutra experts on how you can get the most out of your sex life.

1) Getting ready.

The Kama Sutra stressed an emphasis on being clean. This is a key tenant of the Kama Sutra since by being clean, both partners can enjoy each other without and distraction.

It is recommended that a full shower and scrub down be incorporated into everyday sex, it is even recommended as being part of foreplay. The Kama Sutra also suggests that special emphasis be placed on the breath. A good long brushing followed by some mouth wash is a good way to make the most sensual part of the body, the mouth, ready for intimacy.

2) Foreplay.

One of the main stresses of the Kama Sutra is patience and sensuality. These are a key part of foreplay.

Touch is the one sensation humans crave more than all others, and when it comes to the Kama Sutra, slow, sensual, patient touch is vital. Both lovers should communicate what areas of their body are especially sensitive to erotic touch and each person should take note to concentrate on these areas.

The Kama Sutra places special meaning to the kiss. If you think that the only place for a kiss during sex is on your lover lips, then you need to read up. Kissing should be done on every place you can think of on the body of your partner. Make sure you are taking your time and caressing at the same time. Let your entire body become a sexual object that exists only to please your partner.

3) Oral Sex.

While any part of the traditional Kama Sutra that partners may not find to their liking can be skipped, most partners enjoy oral sex as part of their regular sexual routine. With the Kama Sutra, the same principals that are taught above are emphasized: patience, touching, kissing and exploration. For the woman, try kissing, touching and breathing on the area around the genitals, not just on the penis itself.

The same for the men, the entire body is a sexual organ and you should treat it like such. If things get too hot and heavy and you wish to draw things out longer, take frequent breaks and talk to each other about what worked and what did not.

4) Penetration.

Maybe the most famous part of the Kama Sutra are the unorthodox (at least to many Westerners) sexual positions that are used. The running theme with these is that they are very deliberate and rigid. The reason why is that every position allows couples to experience a new sensation.

New parts of the body will come into contact with that of your partner and there will be different angles, speeds and depths of penetration with each position that allows for an entirely new experience.

There are so many different sexual positions in the Kama Sutra that you could try a different one per week and it would take years for you to go through them all. Do not be afraid to be adventurous and keep trying if you have trouble getting into a particular position. It will be worth it.

5) Other sexual positions.

Anal sex is practiced by over half of North American couples, and while it still carries somewhat of a taboo, it can be a wonderful experience for both partners.

A few precautions to take into account before hand. Make sure the receiving partner is as clean as possible.

Second, make sure there is plenty of lubricant for penetration and third, go slowly. While the Kama Sutra does not mention anal sex persey, they do mention the anus as a sensual zone that, if properly cleaned, can be very erotic and should not be ignored during sexual intercourse.

6) Cooling down.

Once you have both gotten your fill, do not stop the erotic nature of your encounter. Cooling down can be just as much fun as the initial heat up.

Partners should continue to touch and remain nude and intimate if at all possible. Another shower is a great way to scrub each other off and continue touching at the same time.

Just because (hopefully) both partners have orgasmed does not mean the sensuality has to stop.

7) Practice makes perfect.

While most couples do not need any extra encouragement to engage in sex, with the Kama Sutra, sex can become a spiritual experience.

With the extremely slow build up, the incredible intimacy and sensuality, when the inevitable release happens, it can be the closest thing many of us experience to being close to God.

The Kama Sutra is a fantastic way to expand the realms of your sex life and your spirituality at the same time. The more you try it, the better you will get at it.

The Kama Sutra is truly an amazing creation. It combines the best of human nature with spirituality to create a deep and wonderful experience. It may not be for the less adventurous of us out there, but for many, the Kama Sutra is like a shining door that opens into heaven.