Sex positions have been uppermost in the minds of people ever since the sexual revolution began in the 60s and began a roller-coaster ride into the future of  unbridled sexual free-for-all.  The different forms of sexual intercourse were once the purview of dilettantes and free-living souls. Today it has become the subject of every man and woman who is concerned about having a fruitfully satisfying sexual life.

Different types of sexual intercourse are used to either make sex interesting or to help a man or woman achieve sexual fulfillment if they have been afflicted by a sexual problem.

How many postures are there? There are not more than four or five basic positions and all the rest are merely variations of these four or five positions. The most basic is the Missionary position so called because some African tribal’s in the 17th century saw the western missionary making love to his wife and thus was the name was born! The other more popular ones are rear entry vaginal penetration, woman on top, the side by side spoons and the one where the woman lies on her back with her legs placed on her partner’s shoulders. There are also the standing, kneeling or sitting sex positions.  In the standing sex position the woman has her back to a solid support slightly raised so that the man can easily penetrate her.  In the sitting posture the man sits with leg outstretched and the woman sits atop him with her legs wrapped around him. In a variation the man sits in a chair and the woman straddles him with her feet on the floor.

There are other unusual forms like the ‘Seventh Posture’. This is described fully in Burton’s translation of ‘The Perfumed Garden’. Briefly the woman lies on her side and the man straddles her lower leg and lifts her upper leg on to his shoulder or holds it under his arm.

Sex positions are found in any of the classical erotic manuals of the East like the Kama Sutra (Sanskrit), The Perfumed Garden (Arabic), Sunu miaoshan or The Admirable Discourses of the Plain Girl (Chinese) and Ishimpo or the Essence of Medical Prescriptions (Japanese).  These books are much more than sex manuals they are pieces of classical literature enlightening and entertaining.

The Kama Sutra is attributed to the scholar, Mallanaga Vatsayana (300 BC to 400 AD) and the book is a compendium of leading a cultured and aesthetic way of life. It is only the second chapter that deals with sexual intercourse and positions.   The repressive ideas about sex in the west were released from their shackles through the freely available translations of the Kama Sutra, the Ananga Ranga (11th Century AD), The Perfumed Garden of Sheikh Omar Ibn Muhammad al Nafzawi, The Cabinet Secret, the Mines of the Courtesans and other books like the Tales of the Genji.

But if you were under the impressions that books taught you to drive a woman to the Zenith of sexual ecstasy, then   you would be sadly mistaken. They liberated the man and the woman into accepting that sex was a joyful part of life.

One in five men haven’t a clue about sex and from what I have come to know from my casebook is that they, the man and the woman sort of grope around , fumble around and then sort of tumble into each other and soon enough the stork brings the baby home. Or the man goes like an unguided missile when he visits the local courtesan.  It is not as simple as that.

Generations of males all over the world are told that they have to be able to perform and this pressure becomes more when the man enters matrimony. Most males manage to pass the test but there are a fairly large number who flunk the test. This is where the books come in handy for they help the man and the woman develop a confidence in each other and in them.

The softer side of sex and sexual intercourse can actually be developed through the Love Songs of Ovid, the Poems of Sappho and the Song of Songs for instance.   There are several very old Sanskrit poems on love like this one from Bilhana: Even now;/ The pleased intimacy of rough love;/Upon the patient glory of her form;/Racks me with memory; and her bright dress;/As it were yellow flame, which the white hand;/Shamefastly gathers in her rising haste;/The slender grace of her departing feet.

These are sex books like hard core porn which brutalize sex but erotic poetry that inflame the senses in the most extraordinary way and thus pave the way for a better and more fulfilling sex life.

Nearly every guy believes he is a master at oral sex…that’s OK. I do too. The difference is, I have dozens (not hundreds, I mean there are diseases out there, fellas!) of testimonials from women whose future sex lives I have personally ruined. I was the best they ever had or will ever have (unless their new guy is reading this!) Let me begin with the foundation for mind-blowing oral sex.

You have to enjoy it.  

You see, if you are merely doing a “task” to get her off, you will be an average lover. Simply applying the techniques below is not enough to make her your sex slave for life. Believe me, if you do put your heart, soul (and yes, your tongue) into this, you have a chance of giving her multiple orgasms and become the Chinese lick master of the world.   If you are one of those people who think that it is just disgusting and try to refrain from it, take a step back and relax. If your woman smells funny, try it again immediately after a shower. Keep in mind, if a woman climaxes well via oral sex, she may be unable to have an orgasm during routine sex.  

Some women cannot climax without receiving oral sex. If that is a challenge for you, get over it. If your lady loves oral sex, give it to her and if she does not, then discover the reason behind it.

1.      She might have had a bad experience.

2.      She might feel uncomfortable about her body.

3.      If she doesn’t want it, then don’t force it on her.

4.      Some men think that giving oral sex is disgusting, but love to receive it. That’s not fair you idiot, if you like your partner to perform oral sex, then you need to do the same for her, ENTHUSIASTICALLY.  

Secrets of Mind Blowing Oral Sex
- Begin teasing her before going down on her. Run your fingers on her thighs and kiss her on her belly button and belly and then from there just dig into her vagina. Brush your tongue against the labia, and create more lubrication before the show begins.

- Enjoy and have fun and let her know that you are having a great time, as women love it when they feel that their men are just loving their bodies. I always moan a bit and when I am coming up for air, I give her compliments about her pussy.

- Don’t rush yourself. Try to spend plenty of time in pussy-ville. Enjoy everything and explore her vagina like an adventurer. Hurrying to achieve a climax is a sure way to avoid one. Many women who are rushed or too anxious to climax don’t do so.

- Tickle her clitoris with your tongue. Start licking it slowly and then start doing it in a fast rhythm. Because some women love to get their clitoris stimulated and even achieve orgasm while their clitoris is being stimulated. Stop treating it like a fence to be painted. Think about Chinese characters and calligraphy. Paint the alphabet slowly and creatively.

- Massage her outer lips. While you are sucking and licking her clitoris, massage her lips. Pull them away and bring them close together. This will drive her totally insane.

- Use your fingers. Use your fingers to penetrate her while you are licking her clitoris. She will love this. Chances are before long you will feel her tremble with pure delight. Also, you can rub her clitoris while you eat her. You can also try using a toy while you are eating. The three of you will all benefit.

- Put a pillow under her ass. This will give you more room for your dinning pleasure. You will be able to focus more on how to please her if you have more access to her. This Kama Sutra position will also allow deeper penetration of your fingers or toy.

- Massage her nipples. Most women love it when they nipples are rubbed during sex acts. I had one girlfriend who insisted on biting her nipples (impossible during cunnilingus, but you get the idea). Keep in mind that variety is the key. – Stop midway through intercourse to eat her. This will catch her by surprise. Get her all worked up by pounding the hell out of her. Just when she least expects it, jump down and start licking her beaver. She will go crazy when you do this.

- Eat her with mints in your mouth. This will set her wild. Put a menthol cough drop in your mouth and go down there. After you are done, share it and have her go down on you while she sucks on the cough drop.

- Two Step. Put your mouth on her clitoris and suck while your tongue is in motion. This two-step move of sucking and licking should be reserved for the pre-orgasm. It works nearly all the time.

- Hum a little tune. While you are sucking, hum a little. Some women really like this. Vary the intensity, volume, and rhythm of your humming.

- Encourage a Brazilian wax. Nothing beats eating a fur-burger EXCEPT a fully waxed and clean pussy. Not only will you appreciate avoiding nature’s dental floss. But most women report better and more satisfying sex when their pussy’s are waxed or at least shaved.  

Do Not…

- Smell. Don’t tell her that she stinks or ask if she showered today. Take a shower together and start the action while you are in the shower.

- Don’t insist on performing oral sex. If she isn’t feeling so fresh, she is dropping you a hint. If you insist too much, you might get a face full of blood if she is on her period.

- No bartering. Don’t tell her that since you went down on her, she should go down on you. – Don’t tell her what your ex liked. She isn’t your ex, so don’t compare her to her.   Keep in mind that the foundation for good oral sex is enthusiasm, communication and patience. I have other articles on multiple orgasm techniques, creating better sex no matter how long you’ve been together or married, and how to make your wife hot.