Sex positions have been uppermost in the minds of people ever since the sexual revolution began in the 60s and began a roller-coaster ride into the future of  unbridled sexual free-for-all.  The different forms of sexual intercourse were once the purview of dilettantes and free-living souls. Today it has become the subject of every man and woman who is concerned about having a fruitfully satisfying sexual life.

Different types of sexual intercourse are used to either make sex interesting or to help a man or woman achieve sexual fulfillment if they have been afflicted by a sexual problem.

How many postures are there? There are not more than four or five basic positions and all the rest are merely variations of these four or five positions. The most basic is the Missionary position so called because some African tribal’s in the 17th century saw the western missionary making love to his wife and thus was the name was born! The other more popular ones are rear entry vaginal penetration, woman on top, the side by side spoons and the one where the woman lies on her back with her legs placed on her partner’s shoulders. There are also the standing, kneeling or sitting sex positions.  In the standing sex position the woman has her back to a solid support slightly raised so that the man can easily penetrate her.  In the sitting posture the man sits with leg outstretched and the woman sits atop him with her legs wrapped around him. In a variation the man sits in a chair and the woman straddles him with her feet on the floor.

There are other unusual forms like the ‘Seventh Posture’. This is described fully in Burton’s translation of ‘The Perfumed Garden’. Briefly the woman lies on her side and the man straddles her lower leg and lifts her upper leg on to his shoulder or holds it under his arm.

Sex positions are found in any of the classical erotic manuals of the East like the Kama Sutra (Sanskrit), The Perfumed Garden (Arabic), Sunu miaoshan or The Admirable Discourses of the Plain Girl (Chinese) and Ishimpo or the Essence of Medical Prescriptions (Japanese).  These books are much more than sex manuals they are pieces of classical literature enlightening and entertaining.

Most people think the Kama Sutra is just an ancient Indian sex which is partly true and we have covered these areas in other articles.

Here however we will look at what the book is famed for the best Kama Sutra sex positions.

Written thousands of years ago, the advice is still strangely appropriate in many ways to today’s society and the sex positions below have never gone out of date..

There are many sexual positions described in the chapter covering the sexual union between couples, but there are three positions which were emphasized and noted as being better than all the others.

These are known as the three secret positions.

Secret Position 1 The Conch Shell and Crab

The woman is lying down on her back. The man raises her legs with her knees at 90 degrees to her upper body, and with her knees parted; the man will hook her feet over his thighs.

The man is on his knees, with his legs spread far apart (for stability) and he enters the woman in this way, his truck in perpendicular to the floor.

The man’s hands will rest on the woman’s breasts, fondling them, while he rocks her (no thrusting), causing an intense stimulation of her clitoris.

The position will drive the woman wild with pleasure, and fill her with love. The man finds this position intensely satisfying and soon arrives to an explosive orgasm and ejaculation.

Secret Position 2 Man Vanquished

The man will sit using his arms to hold his body up, with his legs spread apart. He is totally passive, and the entire active roll is for the woman.

She mounts him sitting thus, putting her legs over his, and supporting herself by resting her hands on his shoulders.

The woman has three basic movements, the Samdamsha or the ‘Tongs’, the Bhramara or the Bee, and Prenkholita or the Swing.

The tongs has the woman grasping the man’s penis in her vagina and not letting go. This requires a great deal of internal control from the woman.

The bee has the woman swiveling her hips and encircling the man’s penis in a round movement.

The swing has the woman swaying on the man’s body, as if she were on a see-saw.

Usually the woman will employ all three movements until her great moment comes for an orgasm of seismic capacity.

Secret Position 3 Inverted Love

The man lies on his back, and the woman, mounts him, but with her head pointed towards his feet.

She is in a crawling position, on all fours, but penetrated by the man.

She rocks back and forth, and the man assists by powerful counter-thrusting as she eases back down on him.

This position stimulates a woman’s clitoris and g-spot with the woman guiding the movement to achieve maximum stimulation.

A simultaneous orgasm for the couple is assured, and one in which both finds love for the other.

The man also has a very stimulating view of the action and his own excitement is raised to new level of pleasure.

Here we have focused on the sex positions but there is much more to the Kama Sutra and any man should read this book

It is a guide for a man’s life, from his adolescence till old age, of which sex is only one element, so read more about the Kama Sutra and you can enhance your whole life not just your sex life.

If you take a look online or at the Kama Sutra you would be forgiven for thinking that there are so many amazing sex positions that you would be hard pressed to find a best sex position. If you are looking to bring your partner to orgasm however, many of those positions may be enjoyable but not optimum for the task.

There are a couple of good sex positions that could be considered the best but only for each gender as men and women are quite different. As an aside did you know that by varying the position by just an inch can change the intensity and feeling too? This means that you should take your time and experiment with angles a bit with these positions to find what is best for you and your partner.

The Best Sex Position For Women To Climax

For women the ‘reverse missionary’ can be the best and easiest way to an orgasm. It is like the traditional missionary position except the woman is on the top rather than the man. When the woman is on top she can control the friction on her g-spot or her clitoris and has control of speed and power as well.

Usually it is best for the women to orgasm first so once the woman is ready and aroused enough this position will allow her to climax and then you can shift to a position where the man can have control. Where you place your legs in this position can change things a great deal depending on many physical factors, try changing your legs by spreading them or bringing them together or alternating this to find what feels best.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

While the missionary position is also good for guys the ‘doggy style’ position is often considered better because like the missionary position it gives you good control but it has a few other benefits. Intercourse from behind while having no face to face contact (easily fixed with a mirror though) is a great position for hitting her g-spot. It also allows you full access to her sensual areas, the neck, back, bottom and reaching around you can also fondle the breasts and clitoris.

The other key aspect is deep penetration which feels great for the man and for the women, though if you are very well endowed you may need to be careful not to hit her cervix while doing this which can be very painful.

The Mistake Couples Make Using Lovemaking Positions

While each position mentioned has benefits and negatives and so will every other position one problem remains that couples often fall into when trying to spice of their sex life; what happens when you try every hundred different type of position you can find in sex books and online?

In the end they are all quite similar and you will incorporate the best ones for both of you into your love making and they will become standard … and often boring as it always feels the same. This is why couples need to not only explore physical positions when making love but also cultivate a spirit of adventure and inventiveness into their sex lives. This is nothing dirty of sleazy it just means a few changes in the way you approach things. For instance:

• Make love in a new and different place
• Make love in an old place you used too but have not done fro a while
• Add some food into your bedroom capers
• Break the routine with something exciting and different!

If you want to know more on how to spice up your sex life click here for guides, links and information that add passion back to the bedroom in any relationship!