As we age our bodies change and begin to reveal the ill affects of stress and any less than healthy living habits we may have developed.  We lose flexibility both physically and mentally and we may find we are less responsive to pleasure of all kinds. Our bodies no longer respond the way they did when we were younger and/or physical ailments and restrictions may make engaging in physical activity, sexual or otherwise, uncomfortable or embarrassing.

Massage can be the perfect therapy for aging men and women. It can greatly improve and enhance the quality of intimacy and sexual activity between couples.  Mature men and women in the 20th century can learn from the teachings and practices used for centuries, such as the Kama Sutra and Tantra massage. Using these techniques and teachings can open doors that many couples may have thought were closed.

By engaging in erotic sensual massage, rather than pursuing goal oriented sexual activity sought in youth, aging men and women are rewarded ten fold. Erotic massage is a far more meaningful experience than traditional sexual endeavors allowing the development of heightened spiritual and emotional intimacy.

Sensual erotic massage is relaxing, invigorating and life enhancing. It need not culminate in orgasm but should be approached as an experience of intimacy that goes far beyond the usual sexual climax. Taking all the time you need and want to pleasure each other through massage of all types will enrich you physically and emotionally. By relaxing together quietly and participating in the sharing of full body massage, you can begin to rekindle the trust and bond that may have grown weak through years of neglect.

Set aside the expectations you may be carrying from the past and let yourselves be nurtured and loved in the present through sensual massage without expectation. You may find your sexual energy returning but if you do not you will still experience a far greater pleasure of intimacy and union with your partner.

The sexual act including orgasm has always been viewed as the path to intimacy and yet, more often than not, it is actually the opposite. It becomes instead the focal point at the expense of all that goes before. Erotic foreplay and massage can improve a relationship to a far greater degree than the single act of orgasm. As we age we are gifted with a greater understanding of this deeper level of intimacy and pleasure. We can drop the expectations and indulge each other in spiritual touch.

Erotic massage is a far more gentle approach to physical intimacy and therefore can be engaged in regardless of physical health and flexibility. It is not demanding or strenuous and often leaves both giver and receiver feeling more whole and invigorated. It actually improves circulation and blood flow which can improve flexibility.

Erotic massage has healing properties both emotional and physical. You will feel invigorated, restored and renewed and your relationship with your partner deepened.  
For more information on Sensual Massage Tips and Techniques for great health, relaxation, pleasure, sensuality and well being visit : www.erotic-massage-guide.com

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The sexual fire breath is one of the best exercises, especially with a partner (but you can also do it alone), for rapidly building a hot sexual charge and moving it up through your body, helping to open all of your chakra centers. In the sexual fire breath you use a combination of sound, pelvic rocking, PC (pubococcygeous) muscle squeezes, deep abdominal breathing, visualization and hand movements.

Use the sexual fire breath on your own to open yourself to your full exquisite sexual potential. Do it as a charger-upper before making love. Do it during lovemaking as you are being manually or orally stimulated. Do it during intercourse, but be very observant and ready to stop in a flash in the early learning stages or the man may go beyond his point of no return to ejaculate before you are both ready to end the lovemaking. If “energy” is very subtle for you and you don’t usually feel it, try this exercise. Most report really feeling something the very first time they do the sexual fire breath.

Sexual Fire Breath

• Lie on your back. Feet flat on the floor/bed. Knees bent. Legs comfortably apart. Hands at your sides, palms up. Eyes closed.
• Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into your belly.
• Focus your attention on your genitals and visualize drawing breath in and out through them.
• When you have a comfortable breathing rhythm established, begin to rock your pelvis, tilting it up toward the sky.

Use your feet to slightly push off the floor so that you are not using your abdominal muscles to rock and they can remain loose and open.

• Inhale as you rock back. Exhale as you rock forward. (Note: some bodies want to do it the opposite way – listen to yours and go with what feels right).
• Make sound as you exhale – AAAAAHHHH. (This is the most difficult part for many people but it helps enormously, sound carries the energy).
• When you are in a comfortable rhythm, add PC Pumping. Tighten your PC muscles as you rock back. Relax them as you rock forward. (Note: your body might want to do it the opposite way, let it.)
• Begin to visualize your sexual energy as a great ball of golden fire in your genitals. As you rock, breathe and pump draw the golden fireball up through your chakra centers, one chakra at a time.
• Send the energy out through your crown chakra into the universe. Do not leave it to build up in your head. If you are making love with a partner, you can also pass the energy to him through your eyes, your kiss, your breath.
• Pass your hands in flowing motions up your body to help with the energy movement.
• Breathe more rapidly to move the energy higher within your body, allowing yourself to open into its flow.
• When you reach a high edge of energetic arousal you can maintain this level by deepening and slowing your breathing and keeping your body relaxed.
• Rest in stillness for a few moments when you are finished practicing so that the energy can continue to flow through you. Bring it back down and store it in your belly chakra for later use.
• If you have left a store of energy in your head and feel some congestion there do Grounding and apply firm pressure with your fingertips to your crown chakra.

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

Nearly every guy believes he is a master at oral sex…that’s OK. I do too. The difference is, I have dozens (not hundreds, I mean there are diseases out there, fellas!) of testimonials from women whose future sex lives I have personally ruined. I was the best they ever had or will ever have (unless their new guy is reading this!) Let me begin with the foundation for mind-blowing oral sex.

You have to enjoy it.  

You see, if you are merely doing a “task” to get her off, you will be an average lover. Simply applying the techniques below is not enough to make her your sex slave for life. Believe me, if you do put your heart, soul (and yes, your tongue) into this, you have a chance of giving her multiple orgasms and become the Chinese lick master of the world.   If you are one of those people who think that it is just disgusting and try to refrain from it, take a step back and relax. If your woman smells funny, try it again immediately after a shower. Keep in mind, if a woman climaxes well via oral sex, she may be unable to have an orgasm during routine sex.  

Some women cannot climax without receiving oral sex. If that is a challenge for you, get over it. If your lady loves oral sex, give it to her and if she does not, then discover the reason behind it.

1.      She might have had a bad experience.

2.      She might feel uncomfortable about her body.

3.      If she doesn’t want it, then don’t force it on her.

4.      Some men think that giving oral sex is disgusting, but love to receive it. That’s not fair you idiot, if you like your partner to perform oral sex, then you need to do the same for her, ENTHUSIASTICALLY.  

Secrets of Mind Blowing Oral Sex
- Begin teasing her before going down on her. Run your fingers on her thighs and kiss her on her belly button and belly and then from there just dig into her vagina. Brush your tongue against the labia, and create more lubrication before the show begins.

- Enjoy and have fun and let her know that you are having a great time, as women love it when they feel that their men are just loving their bodies. I always moan a bit and when I am coming up for air, I give her compliments about her pussy.

- Don’t rush yourself. Try to spend plenty of time in pussy-ville. Enjoy everything and explore her vagina like an adventurer. Hurrying to achieve a climax is a sure way to avoid one. Many women who are rushed or too anxious to climax don’t do so.

- Tickle her clitoris with your tongue. Start licking it slowly and then start doing it in a fast rhythm. Because some women love to get their clitoris stimulated and even achieve orgasm while their clitoris is being stimulated. Stop treating it like a fence to be painted. Think about Chinese characters and calligraphy. Paint the alphabet slowly and creatively.

- Massage her outer lips. While you are sucking and licking her clitoris, massage her lips. Pull them away and bring them close together. This will drive her totally insane.

- Use your fingers. Use your fingers to penetrate her while you are licking her clitoris. She will love this. Chances are before long you will feel her tremble with pure delight. Also, you can rub her clitoris while you eat her. You can also try using a toy while you are eating. The three of you will all benefit.

- Put a pillow under her ass. This will give you more room for your dinning pleasure. You will be able to focus more on how to please her if you have more access to her. This Kama Sutra position will also allow deeper penetration of your fingers or toy.

- Massage her nipples. Most women love it when they nipples are rubbed during sex acts. I had one girlfriend who insisted on biting her nipples (impossible during cunnilingus, but you get the idea). Keep in mind that variety is the key. – Stop midway through intercourse to eat her. This will catch her by surprise. Get her all worked up by pounding the hell out of her. Just when she least expects it, jump down and start licking her beaver. She will go crazy when you do this.

- Eat her with mints in your mouth. This will set her wild. Put a menthol cough drop in your mouth and go down there. After you are done, share it and have her go down on you while she sucks on the cough drop.

- Two Step. Put your mouth on her clitoris and suck while your tongue is in motion. This two-step move of sucking and licking should be reserved for the pre-orgasm. It works nearly all the time.

- Hum a little tune. While you are sucking, hum a little. Some women really like this. Vary the intensity, volume, and rhythm of your humming.

- Encourage a Brazilian wax. Nothing beats eating a fur-burger EXCEPT a fully waxed and clean pussy. Not only will you appreciate avoiding nature’s dental floss. But most women report better and more satisfying sex when their pussy’s are waxed or at least shaved.  

Do Not…

- Smell. Don’t tell her that she stinks or ask if she showered today. Take a shower together and start the action while you are in the shower.

- Don’t insist on performing oral sex. If she isn’t feeling so fresh, she is dropping you a hint. If you insist too much, you might get a face full of blood if she is on her period.

- No bartering. Don’t tell her that since you went down on her, she should go down on you. – Don’t tell her what your ex liked. She isn’t your ex, so don’t compare her to her.   Keep in mind that the foundation for good oral sex is enthusiasm, communication and patience. I have other articles on multiple orgasm techniques, creating better sex no matter how long you’ve been together or married, and how to make your wife hot.

This shower sex game is a fun way to engage in sexual playful banter. It’s a nice deviation to other sex games that actually require couples to be slow and quiet.

This sex game though can be a bit deceiving. It starts of more on the fun side but the consequences are extremely sensual, making it the perfect sex game for beginners. You know, those who are not yet fully comfortable getting naked in the bathroom with their lover there as well.

How to Play the Shower Cowboy and Cowgirl Sex Game

First off, you guys need water pistols! Get into the bathroom with your undergarments still on. Fill the water pistol with water and try as much as you can to drench your lover’s underwear with water. (It would be fantastic if she’s wearing translucent undies!) This would be a great voyeur-type of experience for you!

What about her then? She can of course do the same. In fact, you guys can try and `shoot’ at each other at the same time and after a given period (bring a timer inside the bathroom), check which one’s undergarments are more drenched in water. The one that’s more soaked loses and as such must remove all his/her clothes off!

The one who’s now completely naked should stand against the wall while the other one is on the opposite end of the bathroom. The one still with clothes should then try to `aim’ at his/her lover’s body. This time though, instead of using water, use diluted chocolate.

Use anything that has a bit of color and is EDIBLE. After, say 30 seconds or so of `shooting’, the shooter gets to lick off each and every part of the other’s body that was hit by the chocolate. Of course, the shooter should hit as many erogenous zones on his/her partner’s body possible.

Shower Cowboy and Cowgirl Sexual Playing Cards

A variation of this sex game is to make use of adult playing cards. Draw a card and see which body part you should aim for. If you hit the spot, then draw a card from the Kama Sutra set of playing cards (or any similar deck) and perform the deed on the card. On the other hand, if you miss the spot, your partner gets to draw from her `penalties box’ which can either be sexually related or a chore you have to do!

Another variation to this sex game is to make full use of that timer you brought along. Pick a card to see which body part you should aim for. If you hit the spot, then draw a card from the Kama Sutra set of playing cards (or any similar deck) and perform the deed on the card but this time, only for a specific period of time. You can have another deck of cards where you can pick out time or simply apply an ascending time period. So for example, you can start off the time period at 5 seconds, and then for the second deed, go for 10 seconds, and so on.

Shower Cowboy and Cowgirl Bull’s Eye Board

This time, instead of `shooting’ at each other, aim at a sexual dart board of some kind. Shoot at the board with your water pistol and see which sexual activity it lands on. You then of course need to do the deed so aim for sexual activities that you’d like to perform instead of receive. If you don’t hit anything on the board, then you completely miss your sexual treat and it’s your partner’s turn to aim at the board!

As mentioned above, a sex game involving shower pistols seems to be more fun than `serious’ and as such is a great way to encourage your partner to start engaging in sex games. Of course, as you can tell from the likely consequences that that’s quite deceiving. But don’t worry, once your lover is already into the game, it’s quite hard to back off from it because of the sexual pleasures it can bring.

Just remember that there’s really no `competition’ here. Don’t get annoyed if you miss treats or if your partner never seems to hit a target! Just think of all the practice you need to do to get this right.

Enjoy yourselves!

I love chocolates–and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay, sex… they’re all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolates can have wonderful effects on our bodies. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure.

A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover–and also very fortunately–chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

Short Choco History

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies.

In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic’.

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate as a Sex Tool

Now if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor.

Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course… her you-know-where!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies! Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise–that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to ‘pleasure’ you. I guarantee she’ll be sucking away with gusto!

Here’s another great idea. Edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!

I love chocolates–and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay, sex… they’re all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolates can have wonderful effects on our bodies. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure.

A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover–and also very fortunately–chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

Short Choco History

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies.

In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic’.

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate as a Sex Tool

Now if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor.

Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course… her you-know-where!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies! Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise–that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to ‘pleasure’ you. I guarantee she’ll be sucking away with gusto!

Here’s another great idea. Edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!

The Kama Sutra is ancient text that revolves around human sexual behavior. It is believed to be written by Vatsyayana around 4 AD. The Kama Sutra is an integral part of Tantric Sex. Its basic seven positions can be used greatly to your and your partner’s advantage during Tantric lovemaking.

Kama Sutra Positions – Which One is BEST for You?

The Kama Sutra has seven basic positions.

- Shakti Position (woman on top);

- Shiva Position (man on top);

- Kneeling Position (sort of like the missionary position but her legs are bent; her feet resting flatly on his chest);

- Transverse Position (side-to-side or popularly known as the ’scissors’ position);

- Cow Position (rear entry or more popularly known as doggy-style);

- Yab-Yum Position (sitting and facing each other; legs entwining or embracing the other’s body)

- Dancing Position (man is standing; she has her arms wrapped around his neck and her legs wrapped around his waist).

Again, let me remind you that Tantric sex is all about making love and deriving the most sexual pleasure from your body for the longest time. This is not about reaching an orgasm. As such, you should actually NOT go for the position that heightens your sexual tension most at the start.

For example, for most women the Shakti position (woman on top) is the one that usually brings them to reach a climax. So why start with this? Do you want her to come now and end the lovemaking? Why not make love for hours instead of just minutes? Are you beginning to understand the principles of Tantric sex now?

Now for men, it is said that the most sexual tension comes using the Kneeling Position (missionary-type) and the Cow Position (rear entry). So again, why go directly for these positions and end sexual pleasure immediately?

You may be thinking that Tantric sex is bordering on sadism. Not at all. Just because you’re depriving yourself of release (now anyway) does not mean your body is wind up like a tension freak toy all the time you’re making love. There are plenty of way you can ‘relax’ and bring yourself down from the ‘point of no return’.

Besides, delaying orgasm also enables you to experience one at a whole new different level. Think about it. Now, you come within just a few minutes of starting sex, right? Well, just imagine the ultimate pleasure of coming, oh, say 5 hours from now? That’s definitely worth aiming for isn’t it?

Now, back to the Kama Sutra positions.

How Do You Ensure You Don’t Climax Right Away?

Now that you know which positions are best for her and which ones are best for you to reach climax (NOT your goal yet), what should you do? For one you can start intercourse with the other positions first. (That would be fun!) And as you move towards the other more ‘tension-filled’ ones, remember that it’s all about the amount of tension and friction you guys exercise.

For example, in the Kneeling Position (missionary-type), don’t just penetrate your partner. Instead, try this Tantric sex exercise.

- Ask her to lie on her back and gently coax her legs apart.

- Ask her if she wants the use of nay lubricant. If you’re not hard yet, that’s ok. No pressure, remember?

- Now, get into the Kneeling Position and slowly start to touch your manhood against her inner thighs. (You can hold your manhood or simply let it drag over her body for now.)

- After a few ‘grazes’, you’ll probably have a hard on by now. Go over her inner things, belly, and vagina lips again. This time would your erect manhood. (That would be a totally different texture feel for her.)

- Now, start rubbing your manhood against her opening. Gently.

- Ask her permission to enter her. Remember, Tantric sex is also a lot about respecting each other’s bodies and wishes.

- Once you get approval, move in slow gentle circles without penetration for a few minutes. (If you’ve pre-discussed using a condom, now is the time to put it on.)

- Place your manhood on her clit and slowly bring it down to her opening.

- Penetrate her ever so slowly.

- Proceed with intercourse with very slow strokes.

Once you do this exercise, you will realize that starting slowly and deliberately automatically prevents you from seeking ‘instant gratification’ in the form of sexual release. While doing this exercise, practice Tantric breathing so that your body is never tense and that all your senses are simply tuned to enjoying each stroke you make.