The real estate mantra ‘location, location, location’ could equally well describe the  preoccupation many people have about getting it right in bed; so much so that perfectionism has reduced sex to little more than position, position, position.  This kind of pressure is supposedly all about being creative between the sheets … or should I say on the kitchen table, perhaps with you served up as the whores d’vour?

Starting with ancient sex manuals like the Kama Sutra, much has been written about spicing up your sex life.  But how many of us get turned on by flipping through a manual while trying to crack a hand-stand in pursuit of a new, more imaginative position? 

It stands to reason that the longer you and your partner have been together the more you’re likely to get into the same old habits. But, if the routine satisfies both of you, then what’s the issue with sticking to positions like the missionary, spooning or styles inspired by Fido? 

The missionary got both its name and a bad rep because the idea of male-on-top suited the establishment’s ideas on what was deemed ‘decent’ in the bedroom.  Anyone who has tried it will know that the missionary is one of the hardest positions from which to satisfy a woman and it was only relevant during times when delighting in coitus was considered wicked for women. 

But if the missionary blows your pubic hair back, chuck out the manuals that suggest otherwise and get on with whatever you consider constitutes a good time.

The idea of inventive sex was initiated to break the missionary mould but today the obsession with ‘getting it right’ has made men and women so guarded and self-conscious that it has sucked the creative juices right out of the reality of being satisfactorily laid.  

It’s common knowledge that creativity and perfectionism cannot co-exist, so if you are fixated about which body part may or may not be shaved and whether you are revealing your cellulite or that wobbly bum, then no matter what position you take, sex will just end up being a mission.

The funny thing about vaginas and penises is that both are quite simple tools to operate; neither needs a complicated instruction manual.  The problem is not the tools so much as the workman and, as each of us enjoys different things, the only direction required is to guide your partner to the hotspots that turn you on. 

Humans have been enjoying sex for thousands of years without having to rely upon manuals, toys and faux nurse’s outfits.   So whether you’re getting your rocks off camping in a cave, soaking in a Jacuzzi or having sex on the beach, the only position important to take is to make sure you’re having fun.

Fun and creativity are products of spontaneity and no one can be spontaneous when we plan a strategy as to where, when, how and for how long we’re going to let our hair down.  Structure destroys imagination and when your toes are pinning back your ears, little could be more off-putting than having to turn to page 64 to find out where his arms and legs belong. 

Sex manuals may be good to spark off some new ideas but, once you’re all fired up, put the book down and let your creative urges rise.  It doesn’t really matter what position you land up in as long as you both enjoy getting there.

Do take some precautions though.  I knew a couple who had a preference for backseat bonking at insane hours of the morning.  On one occasion they chose a quiet golf-course parking lot thinking that the only balls in play would be swung by something flimsier than a five-iron.   However, upon reaching the crescendo they were unexpectedly applauded by a group of early-rising caddies who were overjoyed by such an extraordinary hole-in-one.

Laughter releases tension and can also ease awkward moments so, if you want him pitching tents in his Boxers, being naturally playful is more likely to get the big top up than assuming a position.  

Performance anxiety affects both men and women making it difficult for either to rise to the occasion.  Trying too hard will put the kibosh on creativity and this never-ending quest to get sex right is, in fact, the only way to get it really wrong. 

So, for all you’ve ever wanted to know about your position on positions, just ask your fertile imagination and let the hay roll from there on.

The real estate mantra ‘location, location, location’ could equally well describe the  preoccupation many people have about getting it right in bed; so much so that perfectionism has reduced sex to little more than position, position, position.  This kind of pressure is supposedly all about being creative between the sheets … or should I say on the kitchen table, perhaps with you served up as the whores d’vour?

Starting with ancient sex manuals like the Kama Sutra, much has been written about spicing up your sex life.  But how many of us get turned on by flipping through a manual while trying to crack a hand-stand in pursuit of a new, more imaginative position? 

It stands to reason that the longer you and your partner have been together the more you’re likely to get into the same old habits. But, if the routine satisfies both of you, then what’s the issue with sticking to positions like the missionary, spooning or styles inspired by Fido? 

The missionary got both its name and a bad rep because the idea of male-on-top suited the establishment’s ideas on what was deemed ‘decent’ in the bedroom.  Anyone who has tried it will know that the missionary is one of the hardest positions from which to satisfy a woman and it was only relevant during times when delighting in coitus was considered wicked for women. 

But if the missionary blows your pubic hair back, chuck out the manuals that suggest otherwise and get on with whatever you consider constitutes a good time.

The idea of inventive sex was initiated to break the missionary mould but today the obsession with ‘getting it right’ has made men and women so guarded and self-conscious that it has sucked the creative juices right out of the reality of being satisfactorily laid.  

It’s common knowledge that creativity and perfectionism cannot co-exist, so if you are fixated about which body part may or may not be shaved and whether you are revealing your cellulite or that wobbly bum, then no matter what position you take, sex will just end up being a mission.

The funny thing about vaginas and penises is that both are quite simple tools to operate; neither needs a complicated instruction manual.  The problem is not the tools so much as the workman and, as each of us enjoys different things, the only direction required is to guide your partner to the hotspots that turn you on. 

Humans have been enjoying sex for thousands of years without having to rely upon manuals, toys and faux nurse’s outfits.   So whether you’re getting your rocks off camping in a cave, soaking in a Jacuzzi or having sex on the beach, the only position important to take is to make sure you’re having fun.

Fun and creativity are products of spontaneity and no one can be spontaneous when we plan a strategy as to where, when, how and for how long we’re going to let our hair down.  Structure destroys imagination and when your toes are pinning back your ears, little could be more off-putting than having to turn to page 64 to find out where his arms and legs belong. 

Sex manuals may be good to spark off some new ideas but, once you’re all fired up, put the book down and let your creative urges rise.  It doesn’t really matter what position you land up in as long as you both enjoy getting there.

Do take some precautions though.  I knew a couple who had a preference for backseat bonking at insane hours of the morning.  On one occasion they chose a quiet golf-course parking lot thinking that the only balls in play would be swung by something flimsier than a five-iron.   However, upon reaching the crescendo they were unexpectedly applauded by a group of early-rising caddies who were overjoyed by such an extraordinary hole-in-one.

Laughter releases tension and can also ease awkward moments so, if you want him pitching tents in his Boxers, being naturally playful is more likely to get the big top up than assuming a position.  

Performance anxiety affects both men and women making it difficult for either to rise to the occasion.  Trying too hard will put the kibosh on creativity and this never-ending quest to get sex right is, in fact, the only way to get it really wrong. 

So, for all you’ve ever wanted to know about your position on positions, just ask your fertile imagination and let the hay roll from there on.

Couples all over the world who have sex use typical positions to enhance their sexual experience. A single couple could use many positions in order to satisfy their interests, and they could change these positions from time to time to prevent the monotony from creeping in. There are different positions that are ideal in different circumstances. The ancient Indian treatise on sex, Vatsyayana’s Kamasutra, explains several sexual positions in detail and enlists their various merits and demerits. Some of the popular positions of the Kamasutra are explained in this article.

The first and the most popular position is the missionary position. This is the safest position when it comes to sexual intercourse, and it can be rightfully said that every couple of the world uses this position for most of their sexual activities. The missionary position is adopted with the woman lying on her back and her legs hoisted in the air. The man penetrates from top, inserting his penis into her vagina.

The missionary position is classified as one of the natural comfort positions of sex, which means, the body does not need to unduly exert itself to achieve the coitus. The male normally lies atop the female, while the female is well-rested as her back is on the surface. This position allows the penis to lock securely within the vagina and hence there is no waste of semen. For men with short penises and low sperm counts, this is very beneficial.

But some feminists believe that the missionary position gives too much importance to the male partner. Since the male is on top, he can regulate the entire proceeding, and not much is left in the hands (literally speaking!) of the female. This may be true, but one more fact stands. The missionary position provides natural stimulation of the G-spot and the clitoris by the penis. Hence, even if the man is not making an effort for this, the arousal is maximum and the woman can get her orgasm.

Another problem is that the partners cannot see each others’ bodies. Only the faces can be seen. For some people, the expressions on the partner’s face during intercourse may be a major turn-on, but the partners cannot see the lower bodies. Fondling of the genitals by hands is also not possible.

To counter the drawbacks in the missionary position, there is another position known as the woman-on-top position. This is a totally feminist-appealing position. Here the man lies on the back with his legs outstretched. The woman positions herself in a sitting position on the man such that his penis enters her vagina. In this position, the woman does the jerking movements and hence the control is in the hands of the woman. Plus, the man and the woman both are free to fondle each other’s breasts and nipples; and get visually stimulated by the same. The position allows the man to reach out and stimulate the clitoris, or to fondle the buttocks. The woman-on-top position is also called as the cowgirl position, because the woman looks as though she is striding a horse.

However, this position is also not perfect. There is a problem of the penis slipping out of the vagina repeatedly making the whole process quite cumbersome. It is very difficult for men with short penises. Also when the woman is pregnant, this position is not advisable.

There is a reverse cowgirl position in which the woman sits facing the other way. This position is favored by some couples, as it allows better stimulation of the clitoris. Also the woman can reach out to stimulate the man’s scrotum or anus. At the same time, the man can caress the woman’s back and breasts. And just like the cowgirl position, the reverse cowgirl also provides the control in the hands of the female, while allowing the male to rest.

In both the cowgirl and the reverse cowgirl positions, there is a danger of the penis being damaged. It is necessary that the female keep this in mind, and begin the rocking motions only when the penis is comfortably positioned inside the vagina.

When it comes to relaxing during sex, there is no position comparable to the spoon position. In the spoon position, both male and female lay on their sides and ensconced within each other like two spoons. The butt of the female is placed against the groin of the male. The male can penetrate the anus of the female, or if he lifts her leg a bit, can even penetrate her vaginally. If bored, both partners can change sides, and the woman can reach out and masturbate the man’s penis with her hand.

The spoon position is an equating position. It is also the most naturally comforting position, and it is possible for both partners to lie thus for a very long time.

For the more adventurous couples, there is the supported congress position. Actually this is a very difficult position to achieve, and only couples with a good degree of flexibility and physical strength can pull it off. Here the woman is propped against a wall, and the man penetrates her from the front. The woman then lifts her legs and wraps it around the man’s torso. Hence the entire weight of the woman is supported by the wall and the man’s hands.

The supported congress is the ultimate in arousal as it causes the best friction between the penis and the clitoris. Also, since this is a standing position, it requires a minimum amount of space.

So, couples should go ahead and enjoy! There is no end to the number of sexual positions, and every couple has their own modified versions. Just take care that you keep changing the positions from time to time in order to avoid the monotony.