How to bring back the colourful passion in order to get your ex love partner back for a making up relationship?

One of the common issues that couples deal with is the loss of passion and spark. It’s easy to fall into a routine and become comfortable. Some people get so comfortable they are blinded by how emotionally unhealthy a relationship may be. If your ex has backed out of this relationship and you are certain there is no one in the waiting. This is a massive sign that they have been emotionally unhappy for a very long time.

It is not easy to admit sometimes love isn’t always enough. We can all fall in love with someone, but whether they are right for us is another matter all together. If your ex has emotionally checked out then it may be hard to bring them back. Not unless you change dramatically. The trick however is that you must not change for someone else. You need to do it for yourself. The sad part is change isn’t instantaneous and often it can take years to really change. Some people never do because they are so stuck in a rut.

You need to address whether your partner still feels for you anymore. If they have completely moved on emotionally, you may need to consider moving on as well. However if they still hold some feelings towards you, you may still have a chance. Communicate with them if you can to discover what is really missing for them. You need to be committed in helping the relationship grow and change. Just think of a relationship like a child; when it is young they grow a lot and very quickly but once they get older, their growth slows down a lot. This is not what you want. You need to grow together, encourage each other and share your journey together.

How often do you do activities you both enjoy together? Do you invite them into doing things that you enjoy? For example if you’re passionate about biking, do you ask your partner to bike with you? Sometimes it’s good to get them involved no matter if you think it might bore them. They may simply appreciate the offer.

Add a dash of spontaneity into your life and try to mix up your weekly activities. Try something new every week if you can. Not only does it get you out of the house, it will distract your mind and you get to meet new people as well. Learn and discover a whole lot during this period. Even if your ex is not around, you will feel a whole lot better about yourself.

Remember little bits of sweet gestures throughout the day are much better than one major one every now and then. The way to keep the passion going is to never stop wooing your partner. Try to be flirty and playful and do things without them expecting. The secret to keeping the passion going is to consider each day with your partner as if it’s your last.

Before we delve deep into this topic there are some of us who are passionate and some who are not passionate or detest passion. Intimacy is the need of the hour for most of us not priority. So how many of us want a passionate relation ship or real intimacy? It is claustrophobic to many. So we got to first self analyse as to how romantic are we? passion is romantic obsession with the partner and intimacy is privacy personified. So unless it dips in our lives we need replenish it and both passion and intimacy should not be in overdose too.

Why passion and intimacy dips? Often we compare our passionate and intimate love life to our courtship days when both the partners are their smiling best

try to impress each other constantly compelled to be desirable constantly obsessed to be non repelling wear a mask covering the inner desires curious to explore each other physically and emotionally anxious to confirm whether we will ultimately attain each other so much so that after marriage all these takes a back seat and we take each other for granted. Now that we know that we are for ourselves and only ourselves there is no competition .passion dips because there is no yearning or wooing each other.

prechild birth vs. post partum prior to baby birth couples adore each other and spend time with each other because they have ample time for themselves. they caress kiss flirt play and are fun-loving carefree and have all the time in the world. we compare this post partum when we have duties responsibilities a baby to look after and tend to .passion dips intimacy is next to impossible work hours extended after courtship and marriage we suddenly have a desire to become home makers and home builders that the girl is busy taking-care of the family needs and the guy works to save penny to build his fortune and score success in his material world that he compromises on his passion and intimacy because his priority changes these are the obvious reasons for dip in passion and intimacy

how to boost intimacy and passion in our lives? cultivate primitive behaviour and natural instincts. Forget that we are sophisticated and civilised and watching a television and working in front of a computer. – We got to remember that we have animal instincts and cultivate them coupled with primitive behaviour because ultimately that is what which propagates the species and protects us and procures food. Let us remember to be animals of nature. Day life-night life

Day-life is the material life. night life is not the wild partying but what we got to give each other in a relationship. Wholly. Prepare thyself with a fresh bath and perfume and charming look with appealing attire.

Tips to boost your passion and intimacy scores. They are to have a healthy appetite, coochy coo, cuddle, kiss, tease, utilise all the special senses-

listen to music, have colour play in dresses, add vibrant colour background ,smell fresh and nice ,tasty sweet meats chocolate, champagne, cherries and strawberries , honey etc., tactile cuddle touch tease etc., pep up with humour-extra score, healthy jokes, naughty jokes, anecdotes, memoirs, pictures, photos,

travel memoirs etc. be less inhibited , awaken the naughty, haughty, sexy, prankster in you the wilder side, wear costumes and attires and make love , read the Kama sutra together , try tantric sex yoga , discuss aphrodisiac , sensual massage , perfume bath , discover erroneous zones , search for moles and characteristics , physiognomy and results , wear each others dress , whisper fantasies , have idols and peers of passion , nibble , love bites

In conclusion, you can always appreciate and give marks for being romantic and passionate, have a physical mood clock -indicate your mood, fiercely guard your privacy, watch romantic movies together in an intimate setting, select lingerie and under garments to suit your taste, flirt with each other, date each other and court afresh like new lovers after a small quarrel.

Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again. I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

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The sexual fire breath is one of the best exercises, especially with a partner (but you can also do it alone), for rapidly building a hot sexual charge and moving it up through your body, helping to open all of your chakra centers. In the sexual fire breath you use a combination of sound, pelvic rocking, PC (pubococcygeous) muscle squeezes, deep abdominal breathing, visualization and hand movements.

Use the sexual fire breath on your own to open yourself to your full exquisite sexual potential. Do it as a charger-upper before making love. Do it during lovemaking as you are being manually or orally stimulated. Do it during intercourse, but be very observant and ready to stop in a flash in the early learning stages or the man may go beyond his point of no return to ejaculate before you are both ready to end the lovemaking. If “energy” is very subtle for you and you don’t usually feel it, try this exercise. Most report really feeling something the very first time they do the sexual fire breath.

Sexual Fire Breath

• Lie on your back. Feet flat on the floor/bed. Knees bent. Legs comfortably apart. Hands at your sides, palms up. Eyes closed.
• Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into your belly.
• Focus your attention on your genitals and visualize drawing breath in and out through them.
• When you have a comfortable breathing rhythm established, begin to rock your pelvis, tilting it up toward the sky.

Use your feet to slightly push off the floor so that you are not using your abdominal muscles to rock and they can remain loose and open.

• Inhale as you rock back. Exhale as you rock forward. (Note: some bodies want to do it the opposite way – listen to yours and go with what feels right).
• Make sound as you exhale – AAAAAHHHH. (This is the most difficult part for many people but it helps enormously, sound carries the energy).
• When you are in a comfortable rhythm, add PC Pumping. Tighten your PC muscles as you rock back. Relax them as you rock forward. (Note: your body might want to do it the opposite way, let it.)
• Begin to visualize your sexual energy as a great ball of golden fire in your genitals. As you rock, breathe and pump draw the golden fireball up through your chakra centers, one chakra at a time.
• Send the energy out through your crown chakra into the universe. Do not leave it to build up in your head. If you are making love with a partner, you can also pass the energy to him through your eyes, your kiss, your breath.
• Pass your hands in flowing motions up your body to help with the energy movement.
• Breathe more rapidly to move the energy higher within your body, allowing yourself to open into its flow.
• When you reach a high edge of energetic arousal you can maintain this level by deepening and slowing your breathing and keeping your body relaxed.
• Rest in stillness for a few moments when you are finished practicing so that the energy can continue to flow through you. Bring it back down and store it in your belly chakra for later use.
• If you have left a store of energy in your head and feel some congestion there do Grounding and apply firm pressure with your fingertips to your crown chakra.

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

Nearly every guy believes he is a master at oral sex…that’s OK. I do too. The difference is, I have dozens (not hundreds, I mean there are diseases out there, fellas!) of testimonials from women whose future sex lives I have personally ruined. I was the best they ever had or will ever have (unless their new guy is reading this!) Let me begin with the foundation for mind-blowing oral sex.

You have to enjoy it.  

You see, if you are merely doing a “task” to get her off, you will be an average lover. Simply applying the techniques below is not enough to make her your sex slave for life. Believe me, if you do put your heart, soul (and yes, your tongue) into this, you have a chance of giving her multiple orgasms and become the Chinese lick master of the world.   If you are one of those people who think that it is just disgusting and try to refrain from it, take a step back and relax. If your woman smells funny, try it again immediately after a shower. Keep in mind, if a woman climaxes well via oral sex, she may be unable to have an orgasm during routine sex.  

Some women cannot climax without receiving oral sex. If that is a challenge for you, get over it. If your lady loves oral sex, give it to her and if she does not, then discover the reason behind it.

1.      She might have had a bad experience.

2.      She might feel uncomfortable about her body.

3.      If she doesn’t want it, then don’t force it on her.

4.      Some men think that giving oral sex is disgusting, but love to receive it. That’s not fair you idiot, if you like your partner to perform oral sex, then you need to do the same for her, ENTHUSIASTICALLY.  

Secrets of Mind Blowing Oral Sex
- Begin teasing her before going down on her. Run your fingers on her thighs and kiss her on her belly button and belly and then from there just dig into her vagina. Brush your tongue against the labia, and create more lubrication before the show begins.

- Enjoy and have fun and let her know that you are having a great time, as women love it when they feel that their men are just loving their bodies. I always moan a bit and when I am coming up for air, I give her compliments about her pussy.

- Don’t rush yourself. Try to spend plenty of time in pussy-ville. Enjoy everything and explore her vagina like an adventurer. Hurrying to achieve a climax is a sure way to avoid one. Many women who are rushed or too anxious to climax don’t do so.

- Tickle her clitoris with your tongue. Start licking it slowly and then start doing it in a fast rhythm. Because some women love to get their clitoris stimulated and even achieve orgasm while their clitoris is being stimulated. Stop treating it like a fence to be painted. Think about Chinese characters and calligraphy. Paint the alphabet slowly and creatively.

- Massage her outer lips. While you are sucking and licking her clitoris, massage her lips. Pull them away and bring them close together. This will drive her totally insane.

- Use your fingers. Use your fingers to penetrate her while you are licking her clitoris. She will love this. Chances are before long you will feel her tremble with pure delight. Also, you can rub her clitoris while you eat her. You can also try using a toy while you are eating. The three of you will all benefit.

- Put a pillow under her ass. This will give you more room for your dinning pleasure. You will be able to focus more on how to please her if you have more access to her. This Kama Sutra position will also allow deeper penetration of your fingers or toy.

- Massage her nipples. Most women love it when they nipples are rubbed during sex acts. I had one girlfriend who insisted on biting her nipples (impossible during cunnilingus, but you get the idea). Keep in mind that variety is the key. – Stop midway through intercourse to eat her. This will catch her by surprise. Get her all worked up by pounding the hell out of her. Just when she least expects it, jump down and start licking her beaver. She will go crazy when you do this.

- Eat her with mints in your mouth. This will set her wild. Put a menthol cough drop in your mouth and go down there. After you are done, share it and have her go down on you while she sucks on the cough drop.

- Two Step. Put your mouth on her clitoris and suck while your tongue is in motion. This two-step move of sucking and licking should be reserved for the pre-orgasm. It works nearly all the time.

- Hum a little tune. While you are sucking, hum a little. Some women really like this. Vary the intensity, volume, and rhythm of your humming.

- Encourage a Brazilian wax. Nothing beats eating a fur-burger EXCEPT a fully waxed and clean pussy. Not only will you appreciate avoiding nature’s dental floss. But most women report better and more satisfying sex when their pussy’s are waxed or at least shaved.  

Do Not…

- Smell. Don’t tell her that she stinks or ask if she showered today. Take a shower together and start the action while you are in the shower.

- Don’t insist on performing oral sex. If she isn’t feeling so fresh, she is dropping you a hint. If you insist too much, you might get a face full of blood if she is on her period.

- No bartering. Don’t tell her that since you went down on her, she should go down on you. – Don’t tell her what your ex liked. She isn’t your ex, so don’t compare her to her.   Keep in mind that the foundation for good oral sex is enthusiasm, communication and patience. I have other articles on multiple orgasm techniques, creating better sex no matter how long you’ve been together or married, and how to make your wife hot.