The real estate mantra ‘location, location, location’ could equally well describe the  preoccupation many people have about getting it right in bed; so much so that perfectionism has reduced sex to little more than position, position, position.  This kind of pressure is supposedly all about being creative between the sheets … or should I say on the kitchen table, perhaps with you served up as the whores d’vour?

Starting with ancient sex manuals like the Kama Sutra, much has been written about spicing up your sex life.  But how many of us get turned on by flipping through a manual while trying to crack a hand-stand in pursuit of a new, more imaginative position? 

It stands to reason that the longer you and your partner have been together the more you’re likely to get into the same old habits. But, if the routine satisfies both of you, then what’s the issue with sticking to positions like the missionary, spooning or styles inspired by Fido? 

The missionary got both its name and a bad rep because the idea of male-on-top suited the establishment’s ideas on what was deemed ‘decent’ in the bedroom.  Anyone who has tried it will know that the missionary is one of the hardest positions from which to satisfy a woman and it was only relevant during times when delighting in coitus was considered wicked for women. 

But if the missionary blows your pubic hair back, chuck out the manuals that suggest otherwise and get on with whatever you consider constitutes a good time.

The idea of inventive sex was initiated to break the missionary mould but today the obsession with ‘getting it right’ has made men and women so guarded and self-conscious that it has sucked the creative juices right out of the reality of being satisfactorily laid.  

It’s common knowledge that creativity and perfectionism cannot co-exist, so if you are fixated about which body part may or may not be shaved and whether you are revealing your cellulite or that wobbly bum, then no matter what position you take, sex will just end up being a mission.

The funny thing about vaginas and penises is that both are quite simple tools to operate; neither needs a complicated instruction manual.  The problem is not the tools so much as the workman and, as each of us enjoys different things, the only direction required is to guide your partner to the hotspots that turn you on. 

Humans have been enjoying sex for thousands of years without having to rely upon manuals, toys and faux nurse’s outfits.   So whether you’re getting your rocks off camping in a cave, soaking in a Jacuzzi or having sex on the beach, the only position important to take is to make sure you’re having fun.

Fun and creativity are products of spontaneity and no one can be spontaneous when we plan a strategy as to where, when, how and for how long we’re going to let our hair down.  Structure destroys imagination and when your toes are pinning back your ears, little could be more off-putting than having to turn to page 64 to find out where his arms and legs belong. 

Sex manuals may be good to spark off some new ideas but, once you’re all fired up, put the book down and let your creative urges rise.  It doesn’t really matter what position you land up in as long as you both enjoy getting there.

Do take some precautions though.  I knew a couple who had a preference for backseat bonking at insane hours of the morning.  On one occasion they chose a quiet golf-course parking lot thinking that the only balls in play would be swung by something flimsier than a five-iron.   However, upon reaching the crescendo they were unexpectedly applauded by a group of early-rising caddies who were overjoyed by such an extraordinary hole-in-one.

Laughter releases tension and can also ease awkward moments so, if you want him pitching tents in his Boxers, being naturally playful is more likely to get the big top up than assuming a position.  

Performance anxiety affects both men and women making it difficult for either to rise to the occasion.  Trying too hard will put the kibosh on creativity and this never-ending quest to get sex right is, in fact, the only way to get it really wrong. 

So, for all you’ve ever wanted to know about your position on positions, just ask your fertile imagination and let the hay roll from there on.

Yes and no. What is best sex position depends on a number of factors.  First there are several questions that need to be addressed.  Is it possible that you are able to find out if you are asking the question from your individual point of you? Or are you asking the question because you and this includes your partner want mutually enjoyable sex?  Or last but not the least , are you asking the question from the point of being pregnant?  You see now, do you not, that it is simply not a question of telling you that this sex position is the best or that is better.

There are only half dozen sex positions and the great Indian classic, Kama Sutra says that there are only four sex positions and all the rest are only variations of the four. The acrobatic and ‘twisted knots’ sex positions are merely salad dressing and nothing more.

If you are very tall and heavy, and she is tiny and on the lean side, then any position that has you putting all your weight on her is not a good position.

If a Gallup poll were to be taken of all the sex therapists in the world  and they were asked which sex position is the best, you will find four positions  are mentioned by 90 % of them. They are the woman on top position, the side-by-side position, the woman on all fours and the man  entering her from behind and the woman  lying on her back with her feet held up by the man under his arms so that her lower back is raised and maximum penetration is possible.  The other common factor in all these positions is that the woman receives both clitoral and vaginal stimulation so that she can have orgasms.

The best sex position then is the one that gives both of you maximum pleasure  and if you are both adventurous then there are always variations of these four that you can try. Lots of luck to both of you!

Sex positions have been uppermost in the minds of people ever since the sexual revolution began in the 60s and began a roller-coaster ride into the future of  unbridled sexual free-for-all.  The different forms of sexual intercourse were once the purview of dilettantes and free-living souls. Today it has become the subject of every man and woman who is concerned about having a fruitfully satisfying sexual life.

Different types of sexual intercourse are used to either make sex interesting or to help a man or woman achieve sexual fulfillment if they have been afflicted by a sexual problem.

How many postures are there? There are not more than four or five basic positions and all the rest are merely variations of these four or five positions. The most basic is the Missionary position so called because some African tribal’s in the 17th century saw the western missionary making love to his wife and thus was the name was born! The other more popular ones are rear entry vaginal penetration, woman on top, the side by side spoons and the one where the woman lies on her back with her legs placed on her partner’s shoulders. There are also the standing, kneeling or sitting sex positions.  In the standing sex position the woman has her back to a solid support slightly raised so that the man can easily penetrate her.  In the sitting posture the man sits with leg outstretched and the woman sits atop him with her legs wrapped around him. In a variation the man sits in a chair and the woman straddles him with her feet on the floor.

There are other unusual forms like the ‘Seventh Posture’. This is described fully in Burton’s translation of ‘The Perfumed Garden’. Briefly the woman lies on her side and the man straddles her lower leg and lifts her upper leg on to his shoulder or holds it under his arm.

Sex positions are found in any of the classical erotic manuals of the East like the Kama Sutra (Sanskrit), The Perfumed Garden (Arabic), Sunu miaoshan or The Admirable Discourses of the Plain Girl (Chinese) and Ishimpo or the Essence of Medical Prescriptions (Japanese).  These books are much more than sex manuals they are pieces of classical literature enlightening and entertaining.

The Kama Sutra is attributed to the scholar, Mallanaga Vatsayana (300 BC to 400 AD) and the book is a compendium of leading a cultured and aesthetic way of life. It is only the second chapter that deals with sexual intercourse and positions.   The repressive ideas about sex in the west were released from their shackles through the freely available translations of the Kama Sutra, the Ananga Ranga (11th Century AD), The Perfumed Garden of Sheikh Omar Ibn Muhammad al Nafzawi, The Cabinet Secret, the Mines of the Courtesans and other books like the Tales of the Genji.

But if you were under the impressions that books taught you to drive a woman to the Zenith of sexual ecstasy, then   you would be sadly mistaken. They liberated the man and the woman into accepting that sex was a joyful part of life.

One in five men haven’t a clue about sex and from what I have come to know from my casebook is that they, the man and the woman sort of grope around , fumble around and then sort of tumble into each other and soon enough the stork brings the baby home. Or the man goes like an unguided missile when he visits the local courtesan.  It is not as simple as that.

Generations of males all over the world are told that they have to be able to perform and this pressure becomes more when the man enters matrimony. Most males manage to pass the test but there are a fairly large number who flunk the test. This is where the books come in handy for they help the man and the woman develop a confidence in each other and in them.

The softer side of sex and sexual intercourse can actually be developed through the Love Songs of Ovid, the Poems of Sappho and the Song of Songs for instance.   There are several very old Sanskrit poems on love like this one from Bilhana: Even now;/ The pleased intimacy of rough love;/Upon the patient glory of her form;/Racks me with memory; and her bright dress;/As it were yellow flame, which the white hand;/Shamefastly gathers in her rising haste;/The slender grace of her departing feet.

These are sex books like hard core porn which brutalize sex but erotic poetry that inflame the senses in the most extraordinary way and thus pave the way for a better and more fulfilling sex life.

When you are beginning your exploration into the more sexual aspects of your life one of the first and most famous books that you might hear or read about is the Kama Sutra.

Of course, once you are ready to explore many of the different positions that are in the Kama Sutra you might find yourself ready to invest in a quality personal lubricant.

While water-based personal lubricants are perhaps the safest and healthiest sex lubes that you can choose from, perhaps you are ready to explore a silicone based sexual lubricant since they last longer and would allow you to explore many more sexual positions than a water based lube would.

One of the more popular silicone based personal lubricants on the market today is ironically enough called Kama Sutra Pleasure Potion.

However, before you find yourself buying this silicone based personal lubricant based solely on the name make sure you read the rest of this review to see how good of a product it really is as well as to discover a water-based alternative for those of you looking for a healthier option than what a silicone based personal lubricant can give you.

The first thing that most people look for when looking for a quality silicone based personal lubricant is a product that only has high quality silicones listed as its ingredients.
 
Kama Sutra Pleasure Potion ingredients:

• Cyclopentasiloxane
• Dimethiconol
• Cyclomethicone

As you can tell, Kama Sutra Pleasure Potion only includes high quality silicones, which means it passes one of the most important aspects to look for in a silicone based lubricant.

Of course, the other aspect is actually experiencing the lubricant for yourself or making a decision based on what others think.

When it comes to silicone based personal lubricants the one sex lubes that men and women alike have seem to agree they like more than others is the Oceanus Sensuals line of silicone based lubricants.

Then again if you are a health conscious person and while you understand the benefits of using a silicone based lubricant you still would prefer using a water based natural personal lubricant then consider Carrageenan All Natural Personal Lubricant which has a most like a woman feel to it and provides you with a host of health benefits that go far beyond simply giving you a great sexual experience.

Most people think the Kama Sutra is just an ancient Indian sex which is partly true and we have covered these areas in other articles.

Here however we will look at what the book is famed for the best Kama Sutra sex positions.

Written thousands of years ago, the advice is still strangely appropriate in many ways to today’s society and the sex positions below have never gone out of date..

There are many sexual positions described in the chapter covering the sexual union between couples, but there are three positions which were emphasized and noted as being better than all the others.

These are known as the three secret positions.

Secret Position 1 The Conch Shell and Crab

The woman is lying down on her back. The man raises her legs with her knees at 90 degrees to her upper body, and with her knees parted; the man will hook her feet over his thighs.

The man is on his knees, with his legs spread far apart (for stability) and he enters the woman in this way, his truck in perpendicular to the floor.

The man’s hands will rest on the woman’s breasts, fondling them, while he rocks her (no thrusting), causing an intense stimulation of her clitoris.

The position will drive the woman wild with pleasure, and fill her with love. The man finds this position intensely satisfying and soon arrives to an explosive orgasm and ejaculation.

Secret Position 2 Man Vanquished

The man will sit using his arms to hold his body up, with his legs spread apart. He is totally passive, and the entire active roll is for the woman.

She mounts him sitting thus, putting her legs over his, and supporting herself by resting her hands on his shoulders.

The woman has three basic movements, the Samdamsha or the ‘Tongs’, the Bhramara or the Bee, and Prenkholita or the Swing.

The tongs has the woman grasping the man’s penis in her vagina and not letting go. This requires a great deal of internal control from the woman.

The bee has the woman swiveling her hips and encircling the man’s penis in a round movement.

The swing has the woman swaying on the man’s body, as if she were on a see-saw.

Usually the woman will employ all three movements until her great moment comes for an orgasm of seismic capacity.

Secret Position 3 Inverted Love

The man lies on his back, and the woman, mounts him, but with her head pointed towards his feet.

She is in a crawling position, on all fours, but penetrated by the man.

She rocks back and forth, and the man assists by powerful counter-thrusting as she eases back down on him.

This position stimulates a woman’s clitoris and g-spot with the woman guiding the movement to achieve maximum stimulation.

A simultaneous orgasm for the couple is assured, and one in which both finds love for the other.

The man also has a very stimulating view of the action and his own excitement is raised to new level of pleasure.

Here we have focused on the sex positions but there is much more to the Kama Sutra and any man should read this book

It is a guide for a man’s life, from his adolescence till old age, of which sex is only one element, so read more about the Kama Sutra and you can enhance your whole life not just your sex life.

Here are three detailed explanations of some of the top Kama Sutra positions.

The Basket Position: In The Basket Position the man should be sitting down with his back against the bed rest while the woman sits on him controlling the penetration. The man will then passionately penetrate the woman, for deeper penetration he can grab her pelvis for extra support. This position is exciting for both partners giving them control over the movements and penetration.

The Clip Position: The clip position is extremely exciting for both couples but the man gets to lay back and enjoy the passion while watching his partner in action. Similar to the basket position the man will lie flat on his back and the woman will take control and ride the man with passionate sex. With hands freed the man could feel the woman’s breast and clitoris given back reward for the hard work from his partner.

The Doggie Position: The doggy position is as exciting for the man as it is for the woman. In this position the man can either stand up straight while the woman bends over or they can both get on their knees. There is much more control for the man when standing straight and this position allows for the woman to have her share of control also. While having passionate sex in this position the man becomes the dominant controller but he can allow his partner to have some control also by allowing her to move back and forth at the penetration desired.

When practicing new sexual positions be creative, there are many ways we can position our bodies together to form sexual positions.

The real estate mantra ‘location, location, location’ could equally well describe the  preoccupation many people have about getting it right in bed; so much so that perfectionism has reduced sex to little more than position, position, position.  This kind of pressure is supposedly all about being creative between the sheets … or should I say on the kitchen table, perhaps with you served up as the whores d’vour?

Starting with ancient sex manuals like the Kama Sutra, much has been written about spicing up your sex life.  But how many of us get turned on by flipping through a manual while trying to crack a hand-stand in pursuit of a new, more imaginative position? 

It stands to reason that the longer you and your partner have been together the more you’re likely to get into the same old habits. But, if the routine satisfies both of you, then what’s the issue with sticking to positions like the missionary, spooning or styles inspired by Fido? 

The missionary got both its name and a bad rep because the idea of male-on-top suited the establishment’s ideas on what was deemed ‘decent’ in the bedroom.  Anyone who has tried it will know that the missionary is one of the hardest positions from which to satisfy a woman and it was only relevant during times when delighting in coitus was considered wicked for women. 

But if the missionary blows your pubic hair back, chuck out the manuals that suggest otherwise and get on with whatever you consider constitutes a good time.

The idea of inventive sex was initiated to break the missionary mould but today the obsession with ‘getting it right’ has made men and women so guarded and self-conscious that it has sucked the creative juices right out of the reality of being satisfactorily laid.  

It’s common knowledge that creativity and perfectionism cannot co-exist, so if you are fixated about which body part may or may not be shaved and whether you are revealing your cellulite or that wobbly bum, then no matter what position you take, sex will just end up being a mission.

The funny thing about vaginas and penises is that both are quite simple tools to operate; neither needs a complicated instruction manual.  The problem is not the tools so much as the workman and, as each of us enjoys different things, the only direction required is to guide your partner to the hotspots that turn you on. 

Humans have been enjoying sex for thousands of years without having to rely upon manuals, toys and faux nurse’s outfits.   So whether you’re getting your rocks off camping in a cave, soaking in a Jacuzzi or having sex on the beach, the only position important to take is to make sure you’re having fun.

Fun and creativity are products of spontaneity and no one can be spontaneous when we plan a strategy as to where, when, how and for how long we’re going to let our hair down.  Structure destroys imagination and when your toes are pinning back your ears, little could be more off-putting than having to turn to page 64 to find out where his arms and legs belong. 

Sex manuals may be good to spark off some new ideas but, once you’re all fired up, put the book down and let your creative urges rise.  It doesn’t really matter what position you land up in as long as you both enjoy getting there.

Do take some precautions though.  I knew a couple who had a preference for backseat bonking at insane hours of the morning.  On one occasion they chose a quiet golf-course parking lot thinking that the only balls in play would be swung by something flimsier than a five-iron.   However, upon reaching the crescendo they were unexpectedly applauded by a group of early-rising caddies who were overjoyed by such an extraordinary hole-in-one.

Laughter releases tension and can also ease awkward moments so, if you want him pitching tents in his Boxers, being naturally playful is more likely to get the big top up than assuming a position.  

Performance anxiety affects both men and women making it difficult for either to rise to the occasion.  Trying too hard will put the kibosh on creativity and this never-ending quest to get sex right is, in fact, the only way to get it really wrong. 

So, for all you’ve ever wanted to know about your position on positions, just ask your fertile imagination and let the hay roll from there on.

When you are beginning your exploration into the more sexual aspects of your life one of the first and most famous books that you might hear or read about is the Kama Sutra.

Of course, once you are ready to explore many of the different positions that are in the Kama Sutra you might find yourself ready to invest in a quality personal lubricant.

While water-based personal lubricants are perhaps the safest and healthiest sex lubes that you can choose from, perhaps you are ready to explore a silicone based sexual lubricant since they last longer and would allow you to explore many more sexual positions than a water based lube would.

One of the more popular silicone based personal lubricants on the market today is ironically enough called Kama Sutra Pleasure Potion.

However, before you find yourself buying this silicone based personal lubricant based solely on the name make sure you read the rest of this review to see how good of a product it really is as well as to discover a water-based alternative for those of you looking for a healthier option than what a silicone based personal lubricant can give you.

The first thing that most people look for when looking for a quality silicone based personal lubricant is a product that only has high quality silicones listed as its ingredients.
 
Kama Sutra Pleasure Potion ingredients:

• Cyclopentasiloxane
• Dimethiconol
• Cyclomethicone

As you can tell, Kama Sutra Pleasure Potion only includes high quality silicones, which means it passes one of the most important aspects to look for in a silicone based lubricant.

Of course, the other aspect is actually experiencing the lubricant for yourself or making a decision based on what others think.

When it comes to silicone based personal lubricants the one sex lubes that men and women alike have seem to agree they like more than others is the Oceanus Sensuals line of silicone based lubricants.

Then again if you are a health conscious person and while you understand the benefits of using a silicone based lubricant you still would prefer using a water based natural personal lubricant then consider Carrageenan All Natural Personal Lubricant which has a most like a woman feel to it and provides you with a host of health benefits that go far beyond simply giving you a great sexual experience.

Most people think the Kama Sutra is just an ancient Indian sex which is partly true and we have covered these areas in other articles.

Here however we will look at what the book is famed for the best Kama Sutra sex positions.

Written thousands of years ago, the advice is still strangely appropriate in many ways to today’s society and the sex positions below have never gone out of date..

There are many sexual positions described in the chapter covering the sexual union between couples, but there are three positions which were emphasized and noted as being better than all the others.

These are known as the three secret positions.

Secret Position 1 The Conch Shell and Crab

The woman is lying down on her back. The man raises her legs with her knees at 90 degrees to her upper body, and with her knees parted; the man will hook her feet over his thighs.

The man is on his knees, with his legs spread far apart (for stability) and he enters the woman in this way, his truck in perpendicular to the floor.

The man’s hands will rest on the woman’s breasts, fondling them, while he rocks her (no thrusting), causing an intense stimulation of her clitoris.

The position will drive the woman wild with pleasure, and fill her with love. The man finds this position intensely satisfying and soon arrives to an explosive orgasm and ejaculation.

Secret Position 2 Man Vanquished

The man will sit using his arms to hold his body up, with his legs spread apart. He is totally passive, and the entire active roll is for the woman.

She mounts him sitting thus, putting her legs over his, and supporting herself by resting her hands on his shoulders.

The woman has three basic movements, the Samdamsha or the ‘Tongs’, the Bhramara or the Bee, and Prenkholita or the Swing.

The tongs has the woman grasping the man’s penis in her vagina and not letting go. This requires a great deal of internal control from the woman.

The bee has the woman swiveling her hips and encircling the man’s penis in a round movement.

The swing has the woman swaying on the man’s body, as if she were on a see-saw.

Usually the woman will employ all three movements until her great moment comes for an orgasm of seismic capacity.

Secret Position 3 Inverted Love

The man lies on his back, and the woman, mounts him, but with her head pointed towards his feet.

She is in a crawling position, on all fours, but penetrated by the man.

She rocks back and forth, and the man assists by powerful counter-thrusting as she eases back down on him.

This position stimulates a woman’s clitoris and g-spot with the woman guiding the movement to achieve maximum stimulation.

A simultaneous orgasm for the couple is assured, and one in which both finds love for the other.

The man also has a very stimulating view of the action and his own excitement is raised to new level of pleasure.

Here we have focused on the sex positions but there is much more to the Kama Sutra and any man should read this book

It is a guide for a man’s life, from his adolescence till old age, of which sex is only one element, so read more about the Kama Sutra and you can enhance your whole life not just your sex life.