As we age our bodies change and begin to reveal the ill affects of stress and any less than healthy living habits we may have developed.  We lose flexibility both physically and mentally and we may find we are less responsive to pleasure of all kinds. Our bodies no longer respond the way they did when we were younger and/or physical ailments and restrictions may make engaging in physical activity, sexual or otherwise, uncomfortable or embarrassing.

Massage can be the perfect therapy for aging men and women. It can greatly improve and enhance the quality of intimacy and sexual activity between couples.  Mature men and women in the 20th century can learn from the teachings and practices used for centuries, such as the Kama Sutra and Tantra massage. Using these techniques and teachings can open doors that many couples may have thought were closed.

By engaging in erotic sensual massage, rather than pursuing goal oriented sexual activity sought in youth, aging men and women are rewarded ten fold. Erotic massage is a far more meaningful experience than traditional sexual endeavors allowing the development of heightened spiritual and emotional intimacy.

Sensual erotic massage is relaxing, invigorating and life enhancing. It need not culminate in orgasm but should be approached as an experience of intimacy that goes far beyond the usual sexual climax. Taking all the time you need and want to pleasure each other through massage of all types will enrich you physically and emotionally. By relaxing together quietly and participating in the sharing of full body massage, you can begin to rekindle the trust and bond that may have grown weak through years of neglect.

Set aside the expectations you may be carrying from the past and let yourselves be nurtured and loved in the present through sensual massage without expectation. You may find your sexual energy returning but if you do not you will still experience a far greater pleasure of intimacy and union with your partner.

The sexual act including orgasm has always been viewed as the path to intimacy and yet, more often than not, it is actually the opposite. It becomes instead the focal point at the expense of all that goes before. Erotic foreplay and massage can improve a relationship to a far greater degree than the single act of orgasm. As we age we are gifted with a greater understanding of this deeper level of intimacy and pleasure. We can drop the expectations and indulge each other in spiritual touch.

Erotic massage is a far more gentle approach to physical intimacy and therefore can be engaged in regardless of physical health and flexibility. It is not demanding or strenuous and often leaves both giver and receiver feeling more whole and invigorated. It actually improves circulation and blood flow which can improve flexibility.

Erotic massage has healing properties both emotional and physical. You will feel invigorated, restored and renewed and your relationship with your partner deepened.  
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Unleash the Power of Touch Today!

Couples who actually care for their relationship always make time to make great love with their partner.  There are 5 things to keep in mind for improving your love making techniques and satisfying her the right way.

1. Don’t just talk! Communicate

It’s the need for sex, closeness, emotional connections that draw people together. Love, friendship, communication and  attraction are the glue that keep the bond between lovers strong and stable.  Make it habit to chat to one another everyday about how you’re feeling. Of course both of you are probably very busy people, but that’s precisely why it’s important to talk. 

Don’t assume that simply because your other half loves you, that they will be able to read your mind and understand your feelings. The simplest way to appreciate ther other is simply through good communication.

2. Kiss like Teenages

Did you know that the Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kissing?

The kiss is one thing that couples must not take for granted. Couples who’ve been together for a very long time simply make love and often head straight to the intercourse. The kiss is an incredibly intimate event, one which can express passion, love, intensity and arousal – all in one go!

When meeting your lover after a long day, in bed at night, or while going out to the mall – simply take the time to kiss gently and with intention. It will make your partner feel incredibly special.

3. Sensual Touch

There’s a wealth of information on the different “erotic zones” which  females respond to and enjoy. These are  “hot spots” that can set her off into a frenzy, if carried out the right way. Learning all about touch and the different sensual massage techniques to female arousal will hugely increase your love making skills as well as her pleasure.

Hot spots on a woman inlcude the lower back, inner thighs, neck, hands and forehead (obviously excluding the intimate areas which should only be explored after at least 15 – 20 minutes of gentle carressing of the hot spots). Slow and sensual touching allows a woman’s arousal to slowly and deeply build up to a level which allows her to experience incredible pleasure and satisfaction during intercourse. By not indulging and pamering your lover with atleast 20 minutes of foreplay, you will prevent an increase in arousal, and therefore satisfaction, and may reduce her interest in you and physical intimacy all together.

4. Ask questions

Find out what she likes during  intercourse. Often women don’t enjoy sex because there are things or aspects of your technique  that she  is not comfortable with or does not like, or perhaps there are reasons personal to her. If you don’t ask you won’t know!

Encourage your lover to explore her sexual curiousity. Perhaps there are sex positions that she isn’t ok with but she is scared to tell you, or ones that she is interested in trying out. What is vitally important is that she is  comfortable and relaxed enough to forget all her inhibitions and just surrender to fabulous lovemaking with you.  Often ladies are nervous to give their all during sexual play because they are not emotionally motivated.  An appreciated woman is a passionate woman! Make her feel loved, beautiful and let her know that she’s the sexiest lady for you. Take the time to listen to her, help her out, and to give her some time and focus.

5. Oral Pleasure

Nothing tops off great love making like female oral sex pleasure. That’s why it is vital that you understand how to touch her in the right places and give longer oral sex for her to get fully aroused and responsive to intercourse.

Remember that less is more. Start slowly by gently kissing and nibbling the inner thighs moving slowing along them, teasing her at the same time. Stroke her stomach, thighs and hips. Stimulate the outer vaginal lips for atleast 5 – 10 minutes before proceeding on to the clittoris. Apply a variety of tongue strokes to the clittoris, making sure that you move in  a rythym i.e. apply 5 left to right strokes of the tongue, rest, and then repeat. Do this 3 -4 times,  and then change the movement of your tongue. Add variety and keep her guessing.

Now there you have it gentlemen. The keys tips to better love making and female pleasure.

As opposed to modern day massaging techniques, the art of erotic and sensual massage, as espoused in the Kama Sutra and Tantra has deep roots. Although, sensual massage was not mentioned directly in Kama Sutra, but its various tips and techniques can be applied safely in sensual and erotic massage, like understanding the power of communication, understanding the body chemistry and paying attention to details.

There is a general feeling that Kama Sutra is all about sexuality, perhaps the topic where most people are wrong is that the biggest Kama Sutra sex lesson is about how to live life and approach human relations in a rational and logical way. It is not necessarily means only sex, but pleasure from deep within. However, sometimes that includes sex, sometimes marriage and even sometimes, it means group interactions and other social skills.

Instead of being just a book of sex tips, artistic and gymnastic sex positions, the Kama Sutra makes it clear that technique is no substitute for deep passion and love. Sex, love, and intimacy need to be approached as an artistic ritual. So if we see the art of sensual and erotic massage from the perspectives of the Kama Sutra and Tantra, it is not just about relieving the physical tensions due to stressful situations or to get sensual pleasure, but much more than that to heal the body, mind and soul together.

It is all about rejuvenating the total personality of the person from the deep within. It is all about celebrating our life together, as we are, by finding something deep within us. In ancient India body was considered to be the temple and all sensual pleasures were considered to be holy and sacred rather than perceiving as dirty.

From the teaching of Kama Sutra and Tantra you can entice, allure and charm your lover with sensual massage. In actual sense, sensual massage creates a bond of communication between you and your partner, thus yourself becoming aware of your whole body and its role in giving the massage, allowing you to let go of the world outside. This new world is something that we generally haven’t seen and experienced before.

If done correctly under the right environment by a right person, these massaging techniques can heal you from the deep within, as sensual massage is a holistic therapy in that it works on the person as a whole. Moreover, it is an excellent way of treating minor ailments, stress and negative emotional states in any person due to any reason.

In any massaging technique, whether it is therapeutic, sensual or erotic massage, the art of touch plays a very important role. Sometimes, it differs from person to person who touches and to whom massaging is performed (giver and receiver).

Basically, it is the quality of touch that takes one on a journey into the deepest realms of self and soul, and that subtly, gently and ingeniously encourages one to access the imprints and holding patterns that limit the freedom of the body, mind and soul, and encourages the deepest safety to let go, to dance freer and soar higher than ever before.

But that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn this special art. Surely, you can learn, relearn and unlearn secrets that will help you to becoming absolutely irresistible to your partner.

It is stimulating and soothing touch sensations with exotic aromatic oils that is both titillating and healing. It is all about learning to touch and being touched, for a wonderful and intimate relationship. For your physical experience to last for a long time, the physic must be healed first, especially energy of past relationship which lingers within the physic (it may be due to any number of reasons, sometimes known and sometimes unknown to us). This energy, usually negative energy, has made lots of compatible relationship fail. Whereas, the true art of sensual massage uses sexual energy to rejuvenate internal energy, frees blocked emotions from past and present life and thus makes us more relieved and pleasured.

Sensual or erotic massage, as the name suggests, is all about communicating with your partner by touching. It is a better way to feel one another through body, mind and soul. In the physical world we sense in different ways such as by taste, smell, sight, sound and touch but among all of them touching affects us much. For an instance take an example of a kid who has just joined the school, you can explain a thing to him, it will not affect him much but if you give a thing to him to touch, to play, he will better understand and certainly will not forgot it for long time.

The same thing applies in real life; you can express your feelings for your lover more efficiently by touching because touch is the primary sense we develop, the first one that an embryo experiences within the womb as it strokes its thumb or finger across its skin. You like to touch things you love, you like and you want to get. The same principle applies here in our relationships, but we generally fail to recognize it.

When it comes to relationship touch plays a very vital role. A touch tells who we are and it gives a sense of ourselves from deep within. Touching is the best way to express our love, feelings and thoughts and it makes us feel that we are not lonely and somebody’s around us.

In fact, a huge part of our’ brain is given over to the sensory and tactile department. All of our senses, particularly our skin responses, are the bridge between the outer realities of life and our internal experiences of them. Touch, skin, feelings, sensuality are inextricable from one another. By touching we can examine our surroundings more deeply, more closely in short they are the antidotes to our thinking. The way that we as lovers, touch defines the bond between both the partners.