If you take a look online or at the Kama Sutra you would be forgiven for thinking that there are so many amazing sex positions that you would be hard pressed to find a best sex position. If you are looking to bring your partner to orgasm however, many of those positions may be enjoyable but not optimum for the task.

There are a couple of good sex positions that could be considered the best but only for each gender as men and women are quite different. As an aside did you know that by varying the position by just an inch can change the intensity and feeling too? This means that you should take your time and experiment with angles a bit with these positions to find what is best for you and your partner.

The Best Sex Position For Women To Climax

For women the ‘reverse missionary’ can be the best and easiest way to an orgasm. It is like the traditional missionary position except the woman is on the top rather than the man. When the woman is on top she can control the friction on her g-spot or her clitoris and has control of speed and power as well.

Usually it is best for the women to orgasm first so once the woman is ready and aroused enough this position will allow her to climax and then you can shift to a position where the man can have control. Where you place your legs in this position can change things a great deal depending on many physical factors, try changing your legs by spreading them or bringing them together or alternating this to find what feels best.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

While the missionary position is also good for guys the ‘doggy style’ position is often considered better because like the missionary position it gives you good control but it has a few other benefits. Intercourse from behind while having no face to face contact (easily fixed with a mirror though) is a great position for hitting her g-spot. It also allows you full access to her sensual areas, the neck, back, bottom and reaching around you can also fondle the breasts and clitoris.

The other key aspect is deep penetration which feels great for the man and for the women, though if you are very well endowed you may need to be careful not to hit her cervix while doing this which can be very painful.

The Mistake Couples Make Using Lovemaking Positions

While each position mentioned has benefits and negatives and so will every other position one problem remains that couples often fall into when trying to spice of their sex life; what happens when you try every hundred different type of position you can find in sex books and online?

In the end they are all quite similar and you will incorporate the best ones for both of you into your love making and they will become standard … and often boring as it always feels the same. This is why couples need to not only explore physical positions when making love but also cultivate a spirit of adventure and inventiveness into their sex lives. This is nothing dirty of sleazy it just means a few changes in the way you approach things. For instance:

• Make love in a new and different place
• Make love in an old place you used too but have not done fro a while
• Add some food into your bedroom capers
• Break the routine with something exciting and different!

If you want to know more on how to spice up your sex life click here for guides, links and information that add passion back to the bedroom in any relationship!

Throughout history, and especially today, sex has been a best selling subject, but it’s a fact that most of the best books to educate you in sex are hundreds or even thousands of years old!.

What then are the top three sex books of all time?

These are three that classics should be a part of everyone’s library.

The Kama Sutra

The date the Kama Sutra was written is shrouded in history, and is mentioned in other works as early as the 1st century AD.

It seems it was originally called Kama Shastram (science of desire), but later known as the Kama Sutra (discourses on desire), it is not just a sex manual, but a guide for any man’s life.

There are only 64 sexual positions mentioned in the text, and most would take some degree of sexual and physical skill to achieve, but some are easy and great for both partners in terms of pleasure and easy to do.

The rest of the work is mostly life advice, and strangely, a great deal of it is quite valid today.

Certainly a bit of it is still frowned upon, especially sections like the art of seduction of other men’s wives. Yet it is realistic and appropriate in the life of every man.

The modern translations are all, for the most part, well done.

The reading is interesting, and enlightening.

The book should be a part of every person’s library, as women can learn as much about sex and life from it as men can.

The Perfumed Garden

This timeless classic, written it seems in Tunis sometime in the 16th century (or 925 on the Moslem calendar) by one Sheikh Nefzaoui.

It is a sex manual, straight and certain, covering every aspect of a man and woman’s sexual life.

The information is very straightforward, and unlike all other Arab works, there are no commentaries on any of the sections.

This is obviously due to the subject matter.

However, the sexual positions are attainable, enjoyable, and reasons are often given as to why to do a specific position and not another .

The book even has a philosophical nature to it, as it studies the principles that determine the happiness of a man and a woman.

This by consideration of their mutual and basic relations which are dependent upon their character, their health, and so on.

This is a must read for every sexually active adult.

Memoirs of Jacques Casanova

Although most people in the world know the name of this famous Italian, very few indeed have read his entire memoirs.

The writings of Casanova run into about 4 volumes, and they say more by implication than description.

Actually, it is not a sex manual at all, and except for a very few incidences, Casanova does not go into very much detail about his sexual antics.

However, any man or women who consider themselves as sexual and erotic by nature should read these memoirs.

One finds his 167 conquests believable, as well as most of the amorous rendevouez described.

Jacques Casanova’s importance in terms of sexual importance is reflected in his surname which everyone knows what it means in terms of connotation even if they know nothing about him.

Many people neglect the above books as they feel they are to old and not relevant to becoming a more sexual and loving partner. Read them however and you will see how wrong they are!