Yes and no. What is best sex position depends on a number of factors.  First there are several questions that need to be addressed.  Is it possible that you are able to find out if you are asking the question from your individual point of you? Or are you asking the question because you and this includes your partner want mutually enjoyable sex?  Or last but not the least , are you asking the question from the point of being pregnant?  You see now, do you not, that it is simply not a question of telling you that this sex position is the best or that is better.

There are only half dozen sex positions and the great Indian classic, Kama Sutra says that there are only four sex positions and all the rest are only variations of the four. The acrobatic and ‘twisted knots’ sex positions are merely salad dressing and nothing more.

If you are very tall and heavy, and she is tiny and on the lean side, then any position that has you putting all your weight on her is not a good position.

If a Gallup poll were to be taken of all the sex therapists in the world  and they were asked which sex position is the best, you will find four positions  are mentioned by 90 % of them. They are the woman on top position, the side-by-side position, the woman on all fours and the man  entering her from behind and the woman  lying on her back with her feet held up by the man under his arms so that her lower back is raised and maximum penetration is possible.  The other common factor in all these positions is that the woman receives both clitoral and vaginal stimulation so that she can have orgasms.

The best sex position then is the one that gives both of you maximum pleasure  and if you are both adventurous then there are always variations of these four that you can try. Lots of luck to both of you!

Sex positions have been uppermost in the minds of people ever since the sexual revolution began in the 60s and began a roller-coaster ride into the future of  unbridled sexual free-for-all.  The different forms of sexual intercourse were once the purview of dilettantes and free-living souls. Today it has become the subject of every man and woman who is concerned about having a fruitfully satisfying sexual life.

Different types of sexual intercourse are used to either make sex interesting or to help a man or woman achieve sexual fulfillment if they have been afflicted by a sexual problem.

How many postures are there? There are not more than four or five basic positions and all the rest are merely variations of these four or five positions. The most basic is the Missionary position so called because some African tribal’s in the 17th century saw the western missionary making love to his wife and thus was the name was born! The other more popular ones are rear entry vaginal penetration, woman on top, the side by side spoons and the one where the woman lies on her back with her legs placed on her partner’s shoulders. There are also the standing, kneeling or sitting sex positions.  In the standing sex position the woman has her back to a solid support slightly raised so that the man can easily penetrate her.  In the sitting posture the man sits with leg outstretched and the woman sits atop him with her legs wrapped around him. In a variation the man sits in a chair and the woman straddles him with her feet on the floor.

There are other unusual forms like the ‘Seventh Posture’. This is described fully in Burton’s translation of ‘The Perfumed Garden’. Briefly the woman lies on her side and the man straddles her lower leg and lifts her upper leg on to his shoulder or holds it under his arm.

Sex positions are found in any of the classical erotic manuals of the East like the Kama Sutra (Sanskrit), The Perfumed Garden (Arabic), Sunu miaoshan or The Admirable Discourses of the Plain Girl (Chinese) and Ishimpo or the Essence of Medical Prescriptions (Japanese).  These books are much more than sex manuals they are pieces of classical literature enlightening and entertaining.

The Kama Sutra is attributed to the scholar, Mallanaga Vatsayana (300 BC to 400 AD) and the book is a compendium of leading a cultured and aesthetic way of life. It is only the second chapter that deals with sexual intercourse and positions.   The repressive ideas about sex in the west were released from their shackles through the freely available translations of the Kama Sutra, the Ananga Ranga (11th Century AD), The Perfumed Garden of Sheikh Omar Ibn Muhammad al Nafzawi, The Cabinet Secret, the Mines of the Courtesans and other books like the Tales of the Genji.

But if you were under the impressions that books taught you to drive a woman to the Zenith of sexual ecstasy, then   you would be sadly mistaken. They liberated the man and the woman into accepting that sex was a joyful part of life.

One in five men haven’t a clue about sex and from what I have come to know from my casebook is that they, the man and the woman sort of grope around , fumble around and then sort of tumble into each other and soon enough the stork brings the baby home. Or the man goes like an unguided missile when he visits the local courtesan.  It is not as simple as that.

Generations of males all over the world are told that they have to be able to perform and this pressure becomes more when the man enters matrimony. Most males manage to pass the test but there are a fairly large number who flunk the test. This is where the books come in handy for they help the man and the woman develop a confidence in each other and in them.

The softer side of sex and sexual intercourse can actually be developed through the Love Songs of Ovid, the Poems of Sappho and the Song of Songs for instance.   There are several very old Sanskrit poems on love like this one from Bilhana: Even now;/ The pleased intimacy of rough love;/Upon the patient glory of her form;/Racks me with memory; and her bright dress;/As it were yellow flame, which the white hand;/Shamefastly gathers in her rising haste;/The slender grace of her departing feet.

These are sex books like hard core porn which brutalize sex but erotic poetry that inflame the senses in the most extraordinary way and thus pave the way for a better and more fulfilling sex life.